we are a beautiful cpl, (mid 30's) We went out for dinner in our valentine's nite (last nite) and after flowers, vine and kisses we came home arround 11pm and she started saying that she was kinda tired and she asked me if we could just go to sleep. ??? I always like to be very sexualy active with my partner, And like to spent time with her... I am few years younger than her, I dont know if she was tired or not.. but In special day like this dont you think is a little too weird? Why is she not giving me this type of attention in the most romantic day of the year?
2007-02-15 00:23:57 · 13 answers · asked by kkimlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is she bored with u already??? something to think about. If she's not on the same sexual level as u r, I would take a long hard (no pun intended) look at your relationship. sex is a verrry important part of it. just come out and ask her in the morning her reason for not wanting u to make love to her.
2007-02-15 00:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by NYEVE43 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes!! I think you assume too much...
Flowers, wine, and kisses do not automatically equal sex. NOTHING automatically equals sex. If she got up early, then 11 could be very late for her. She may not be feeling well. She could have had a busy day before your evening out. She may be bothered by something. There's 101 reasons for her to prefer sleep to sex. You need to talk to HER about it...not make it a public issue on here.
BTW-What's the comment "I always like to be very sexually active with my partner" have to do with it? Men crave sex a LOT more than women, that's a given. Pushing her into sex because of what you've done in past relationships is selfish. You need to work together and find a good rhythm for how often you have sex. She needs romance without sex sometimes just to show her you love HER, not just her BODY. Period. There's no better day to get this than on the most romantic day of the year. You said you like to spend time with her...isn't that what you were doing?
Blessings
2007-02-15 00:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal dude!! We always put to much emphasis on sex in relationships. Just because you are dating doesn't make the pussy yours automatically. It doesn't matter what day it is if she doesn't want to give you none that is on her. You need to respect her and show her that you don't really care that you did not have sex with her on Valentine's day. Was there a Memo I missed stating that sex was mandatory on V-Day? If so I guess I should be pissed too. Give her a break this time and if it continues to happen you need to confront. Charge it to the game bro, it was late on a Wednesday and she probably had to work today and just didn't feel like given kitty. If you keep that attitude about it then she is sure to stray quick.
Just talk to her to dude
2007-02-15 00:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pressure really has a lot to do with it. that's the issue of a few human beings searching it frustrating to end - they're questioning about ending somewhat of only "feeling" it. and by technique of how, attempt no longer ending quickly. attempt taking as long as accessible somewhat. females love that.
2016-11-03 12:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see her point. You may think it's wrong, and since you think this way, Sex isn't the only thing that makes up a good relationship. I think you are being very shallow. Yesterday was middle of the week and alot of people were kinda tired.
2007-02-15 00:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion. (based on experiences) Maybe "GF". is tired of being "GF"? Masybe she's wanting to take it to another Level. Maybe looking to start "Maiking Love". But that would mean that you would have to actually be In Love, with her. Step up and be a Man? Or take a chance on losing her.
2007-02-15 00:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal. I want to be loved, not needed, or used, or wanted, on Valentine's Day.
I don't want pressure.
And I can bet that there are plenty of women out there who want to be loved for themselves, for their souls, and not for their bodies, on this day.
Of course, that means we're undoing the whole notion of Saint Valentine being used to cover up a pagan reproductive ritual.
Oh, well, welcome to America.
2007-02-15 00:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great answer, johnj lol
2007-02-15 00:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by billy brite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not wired maybe she just didnt want to do it thats all
2007-02-15 00:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks! you may as well have stayed home with the wife!!!
2007-02-15 00:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by john j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋