My fiance and I would like to have a Quaker wedding. Neither of our families are Quaker but there are several on the guest list. I want good quality silence and was thinking about typing up an explenation of the ceremony for the non-quakers and including it with the invitation. Has anyone been to a Quaker wedding without a lot of Quakers? How was the silence?
Also, we would like our parents to sign first at the close of the ceremony. Is that rude for any reason?
Thanks!
2007-02-15 00:06:02 · 8 answers · asked by blahblah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For those who are curious:
Yes, they are without a doubt still around. If you are interested in learning more, here is a good website to start with:
http://www.pendlehill.org/
I am a "recovering Catholic" as they say. I grew up with Quakers and worked at Quaker school for some time. I have a lot of respect for the religeon and think their wedding ceremony is quite beautiful and back to basics.
For those who are rude:
I suggest you learn something about the subject before you criticize and make judgements - Frankly, that is a very cult like behavior you are engaging in!
2007-02-15 00:24:22 · update #1
Also, if it helps - guest list tend to get our of hand - but as of now were thinking very small - around 30 to 40 - with around 15 familar with meeting for worship.
2007-02-15 00:39:07 · update #2
Alright, - here's the deal - you do not have to be on the Quaker registry to obtain a Quaker marriage license - which is legally binding once signed by the wedding guests.
I've already done my homework. Could someone just please answer THE ACTUAL QUESTION. This is feeling like a huge waste of my time!
2007-02-15 01:34:01 · update #3
Wow...people are rude aren't they. I don't know much, if anything, about Quakers or Quaker ceremonies, but it's your big day so have whatever kind of wedding you want, as long as it means something to you!
Congratulations!
2007-02-15 00:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by tigeri4263 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Congrats on the up and coming wedding. I did a little research on this topic and I wish you luck. You will defiantly need to send explanation to non Quaker guest as If they do not know what this ceremony is all about you will not get the type of ceremony you are looking for. I not knowing anything about it would have been totally confused if I were to come to your wedding. After reading the traditions of the ceremony it sounds very peaceful and nice to get back to basics. I have all ways thought that weddings are getting to much for the show of things and it is wonderful to step back abit. According to custom the signature of the certificate is to be signed by all guest as wittiness to you wedding so if you want your parents to be first then escort them to be first as others will follow. I do not think that would be rude at all but then I'm not a Quaker and I really do not know if that would be offensive to them or not. Guess you will have to do some searching on that matter. Good Luck
2007-02-15 01:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing would be to find out if you can be married in a Quaker ceremony without being a Friend.
Then, better find out the legal aspects of the marriage license. I don't know anything at all about the paperwork that Quakers file in the legal world, especially as there is no licensed minister involved with the ceremony.
You may need to have a civil ceremony to make it all legal and binding.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 01:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to do some more research. See the link for details.
It certainly doesn't sound like they just allow some random non-Quakers to show up and get married. It also sounds like the ceremony is generally almost entirely Quakers as opposed to just a few. You might also talk to some Quakers about all your ideas.
Quite why you want to join some archaic weird cult that has fewer members than Scientology is quite beyond me.
2007-02-15 00:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
OK- it's kinda strange.... it's like saying you want to be married Jewish because you respect the religion but your Catholic......
If I was you, I would start going to a Quaker church and see if that's the religion you want to be. You just shouldn't get married under a religion because you like it.... you should believe it.
Plus, I don't think they will marry you unless you are really a Quaker.
2007-02-15 00:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not sure. As long as you play "SImple Gifts" it gives a Quaker feel! Try that...
2007-02-15 01:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by lovelovelove♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Quakers? Are we in 1492? That religeon is still around? Well, hell if I know. Now I'm going to have to research this.
2007-02-15 00:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Robby's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
you are very misinformed about what Quakers are, they don't marry don't have children , they are single and celebrate for life
2007-02-15 00:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by koleary388 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋
What kind of goofy crap is this?Let me try to get this straight neither of you are quackers and you are havin this kinda weddin,you two must be serious dope smokers.
2007-02-15 00:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by dcam47 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋