My bf & I were arguing (more like me screaming at him everything I wanted to get off my chest) & I told him he doesn't satisfy me in bed anymore. I kinda feel bad now. I really didn't want to hurt his feelings.
Maybe I should mention that I'm almost 7 months pregnant with his child. Before my belly got big our sex life was wonderful. So I know it's probably not just him. & he said he doesn't want to hurt me...but he could at least last a little longer.
What should I (we) do??
2007-02-15 00:03:47 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there. Guys are scarred at this point. Some of my friends gave up sex last couple of months due to fear.
Teach him how to have at this time, he'll be forever grateful.
2007-02-15 00:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All that screaming and stress is really bad for you and the baby!!!!
Do not succumb to that style of communication. Also, the baby deserves to have a peaceful environment once it's born.
You seem to be a little on the edge, so apologize to him and make an agreement there will be no more screaming matches.
He might feel awkward about sex when you are pregnant. Give the guy a break - this part of your life won't last forever. There are other ways besides intercourse to get pleasure too, get creative.
Go get some books on pregnancy/birth/parenting issues and start studying.
2007-02-15 00:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. You are on your way to raising a family.
At this point, saying how much you regret your words spoken in anger will bring him around and you both will have sex that will be just wonderful. Try it. This works everytime. Making up after a fight is sweet.
Think about it - you have hurt his manhood. Literally you have insulted his penis. That's right, you did that to the most important thing to a man. And, you hit him right between his eyes. Nothing could be more damaging than that.
Words are spilled milk. Neither can you lick it nor can you pick it. You can wipe it off though - and the way to do that is to apologize.
I do not agree with some suggestions here such as splitting, or aborting your baby etc.. That kind of answer is way too insensitive.
2007-02-15 00:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st: apologize. That was not cool
2nd. Communicate. Tell him what you need to satisfy you. However, do it gently. We men sometimes feel that we have all the answer, but we do not. We need guidance like everyone else.
3rd. Show him. There are many ways you can make him last. Do longer foreplay. Tell him to pull put before he reach is point and go down on you. (Sometimes men do like going down on pregnant women because of the excess juice, but ask him anyway) Keep repeating until you are satisfied. What that does is keep you charge up and decreases his stimulation. Therefore, he will last longer.
4th. Take control. Stimulate yourself to the point where you know that you would get your release. Therefore, if he is fast, you will still get ours.
5th. Involve toys. Bring out your favorite toy, and tell him to make sure that he takes care of you. So if he shoots fast, make him finish you off with the toy. Whatever you do, do not release him of his duties. As a man, he is responsible for making sure that you are satisfied, just as you need to do for him. (Side note: if you do not have one, may I suggest the magic wand? Believe me, you will be satisfied!)
6th Again, communicate. That is the key to all things. Know your body and teach him how to please you.
7th Have fun. Enjoy the sessions. Pregnancy does not stop anything. In fact, it is more fun because you have to experiment. Lucky him
8th Good luck and congratulations!
2007-02-15 00:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to him and reassure him about his sexuality. That was an awful thing to say. Men are very sensitive about their abilities in the bedroom. If he can't last long enough to satisfy you, use another method for your satisfaction for now just to get you through this rough time. And work on it later after the baby comes and things have settled down a bit. There are ways for him to last longer, but it takes some time, patience, and practice.
2007-02-15 00:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was harsh. You should definitely tell him you are seven months pregnant and maybe he will feel a little better. Next time don't be so harsh with him give him a chance to just relax and take his time so that next time when both of you have sex together he will satisfy you and it will be better than the first time you both have sex.
2007-02-15 00:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should make up and realize that your own system is under going many changes. Many women are cranky during their pregnancies. Please sit down and tell him what is really going on and it isn't really his fault.
Also remember that half of what goes on under the sheets is up to you. Men is general, rally don't understand how to please a woman,.....Oh we think that we do and are upset when a woman says we didn't satisfy them. We think that all we have to do is just jump on and all is OK, you ladies know better. TELL HIM SWEETLY! what it is that would make you orgasmic, and instruct him through it a few times. He'll catch on and you will be well pleased.
2007-02-15 00:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by ffperki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to bring that to u but some men re disgusted with pregnant women. my ex husband told me that he didn't like to have sex with me while i was 7-8 months pregnant because of my stomach. probably they feel they re fu'c'k'i'n'g baby inside. so tell him u re sorry and wait till u deliver and 2 months after delivery and then u'll see. good luck with pregnancy and baby. hope everything goes well for u
2007-02-15 00:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are arguing with a person you should always ensure that u donot sy anything that u wll regret later.this make lead 2 a separation n u cant afford while expecting a child.u should say sorry 2 him n make it up to him.u should learn to b an example 2 ur baby when she /he is here.
2007-02-15 00:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get over the insult.
And did you know that the right type and amount of foreplay on a guy will extend his sexual performance.
Or you could call it in like back in the dating days; "Honey, I'm coming home horny from work tonight, prep yourself in advance."
2007-02-15 00:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by brown one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋