How can i get my ex back?

Question

Well we went out for 5 1/2 monthes but he broke up with me about 4 monthes ago. However we've remained close friends, we still talk on the phone nearly everynight theres no one i'm closer to. In our talk last night i learned a few things, he thought that it was only going to be a break and we'd get back together(however he started dating this girl, whos kinda a ****,but there completly over now), he thought it would seem like he just broke up with me to be with her. He says that his feelings for me are a kind of friendship love. He says his love only changes 3 times, from just liking someone, to love, to just friendship love. He says that we won't date again, but then he goes and says stuff like, were basicaly still dating(refering to the hours on the phone and hanging out etc.) He said that we are defiently still attached to each other, if he wasn't he wouldn't be up till 12:30 on the phone with me when we both need to get up at 6 he wants to have sex with me too and i do to, but i really want him back, as my boyfriend, how can i make him like me in that way againhe broke up with me because he didn't belive i loved him and he didn't think it was going anywhere, the second one i've proved wrong but he still doesn't belive i love him

Answer 1

You need to cut him out. He's basically a good guy except for one thing- he doesn't want to tied to one woman. He knows you're a good girl but he doesn't want to be with you. He just wants you as a backup in case he doesn't have a girlfriend. You need to stop carrying on with him like he's the last guy on earth. You two only dated for 5 1/2 months- how hard can it be to get over him and move on? You deserve to be someone's #1, not their safety net!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well you can do a lot of things...for a short while. Its hard being someone you are not for very long. He likes you as a friend, he will have sex with you if he's desperate. He's made it clear that what he feels is more platonic than inlove. Why would you want to accept a relationship with him...if you KNOW he's only waiting for someone different to come along? That would be heartbreaking every day and so damaging to your self-esteem.

He is saying he doesnt believe you love HIM...because he knows damn well he doesnt love YOU...its an excuse, thats all. A man in love will readily accept a positive response if a girl even hints at having feelings (they dont have to prove anything). He's proved he's quite capable of moving on, with no thoughts of you to sway him...that gives any longterm relationship absolutely no foundation to build upon.

Stopping talking to him would be the best way to get him back...give him time to REALLY miss you.....but dont be surprised if he does a backflip after youve had sex a few times....he'll remember why it didnt work then or now.

Answer 4

I have to be honest . . .
He's playing your mind,, that's very clear,
He knows you care for him and still loves
him,, and he's using that to get you to bed,
but that's all he wants from you now..
If he finds another girl again, he'll just gonna
dump you, believe me . . I'm not new to this
anymore.

Respect yourself so he respects you and might
re-think and consider you.
He's broken up with you and been with someone,
now that it didn't work well, he wants you only for
friendship so he can have sex. Then he would turn
to his friends and tell them about you and laugh at
you. Please think about it. . . . . .

LOVE YOURSELF AND HONOR YOURSELF,,
YOU ARE PRECIOUS, REMAIN VALUABLE..
BECAUSE YOU ARE..

Answer 5

I fully agree to anomaly...cut him out...he just needs someone to be with not necessarily you...