Hi, I’m a guy who’s a virgin and I’m abstaining from sex till marriage. I was just wondering what the percentage amount of people who wait till marriage to lose their virginity is. And please, I don’t need to hear about sexual compatibility or you wouldn’t buy a car before test driving it rubbish, only stupid and shallow people think like that and I don’t want to hear it. Because love has nothing to do with sex, and I know that the sexuality compatibility thing can be worked out over time, where as love can’t, it’s either their or it isn’t. It has nothing to do with if your compatible in bed or not.
2007-02-14 23:43:56 · 19 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm still a virgin, and so is my boyfriend of a year. He wants to wait till after marriage..I just wanted to wait till I found someone I loved, and trusted. I use to tell my friends, the first guy I have sex with will also be the guy I marry and father my kids. I've gotten older, and I don't want to get married..which causes a bit of a problem in my relationship. Oh well, only time will tell. Maybe I'll just give in and marry my boyfriend in the future. He comes from a very religious family. I just have trust issues with guys, which has prevented me from being a skank like the rest of my peers. Not only the trust issues that have held me back, I just didn't want to be used or degraded. I have to overcome my past to see that sexual acts aren't degrading to women, I guess being sexually abused did that to me. So, I guess I'm one of the few that's waiting for marriage, it'll take just about that long till I can fully trust a guy..
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2007-02-15 00:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not waiting until marriage, but I am waiting for a serious relationship with that "special girl" I don't believe in casual sex and there's no religious reason behind my thought process.
Intimacy with a girl you love, makes sex all the more potent and enjoyable.
I'm also far too concerned with STDs, and unwanted pregnancies. I'm not a guy to abandon a girl or push her into an abortion if she gets pregnant.
Men today are not men at all. They go around like roving alley cats doing it with every other girl they "hook up with" and then they walk off and pretend it never happened. So, getting that girl you had sex with pregnant now ruins your plans for life?
Too bad! Should have thought of the possible repercussions before you did what you did. Be a man now, get a job and help support your woman and your child.
Men need to start acting like men, and not pubescent boys with car keys. Being a man is more than just getting a stiffie and banging every woman you meet. It means thinking rationally and taking responsibility for your actions.
2007-02-15 00:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this modern world, I'd say there is a large proportion of people who have had sex before marriage. I find that in the religious communities, people tend to wait till marriage before having sex. I myself am a Christian and is still a virgin. My reasons from abstaining is a bit of what you described, but mainly because in the bible, sex before marriage is called fornication, and it is a big no-no. Anyway, I hope my answer gives you a better idea.
2007-02-15 01:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm one of them... 23 and still a virgin... and damn proud of it... I think that into todays world being a virgin is so rare... and its actually a really sensible thing... coz its not just about religion (although I am a Christian) but also about protecting yourself from Aids (coz no matter what they say...CONDOMS ARE NOT 100% FOOLPROOF) I think you only really feel deprived if you've had sex andf then don't have it for a while... but to me its a mystery (well sort of... I do watch tv and movies...hee hee), but seriously having sex is an emotional expereince (even if you think you can have sex with no emotional attachment) If you are a decent person who wants to be loved and have relationships... if you have sex before marriage then you're gonna be taking away from the full emotional connection you can give your husband or wife one day, and also bring the baggage that comes attached with it into your marriage... and in my opinion that is one of the reasons why there are so many divorces now days.
I know for a fact that you can have an awesome relationship without sex... coz my brother and his girlfriend have been dating a year and a half, and have the kiffest relationship (like I would like one day) and haven't had sex... they're saving themselves.
Other people might think its sad... but to me its not what they think, its what God and my future husband think that matters to me!
2007-02-15 00:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi I also disagree with premarital sex... I will be having sex only after marriage... However let me tell u one thing...
Sex is very important in love... if u love a person it's human nature to feel like loving that person and being loved in return... When u meet a person, u dont need to have sex with that person to know that he/she will be compatible with u... U automatically come to know that because we do feel that we are attracted towards the person...and we know that we will have a really good sexual life with that person... many people say they need to experience it first but i totally disagree with them... sex is not something that ought to be experienced with different people
in order to know if we can spend our life with someone
2007-02-15 00:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
good for you
there probably aint to many people out there that are vigins untill they marry, especially men. I cant help to wonder how old you actually are. Its hard to believe what your saying, ive never known a guy who wants to be a virgin until they marry. or who want to be a virgin at all
2007-02-14 23:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by mel_leno 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't. I first had sex at 25 and married at 33.
2015-07-17 18:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see i feel the same way i get made fun of by all my sisters and Friends and i am only 15 and i have not had sex yet i dont even think that 15 is that old but to them they act like it is see my Lil sister is only 14 and she has and they all make fun of me because see is younger than me they say they want to get me drunk so i can get over it they make fun of me so much sometimes i just want to do it it not that i want to wait to im married it i am just scared right now sorry i know that that did not answer your thing at all but hey good luck with all that waitin to you married
2007-02-14 23:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by ebonee h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not many people do ,but its important 2. You r doing the right thing 2 wait.
2016-03-29 07:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say that cause u 've never had sex. it has a lot to do with it cause love fades away once compatibility is absent. true-believe it or not.
2007-02-14 23:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by disco ball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋