long story short. I'm in a 2yr relationship. He did support me the first 1yr and a half. Now I work full time, he works 50-70 hrs wk, cause he refuses to work anything less. I do 98% of the cleaning , 90% of the cooking. Anytime he asks for a drink or a cig, anything I get it. When I come out and talk about anything stressing me, like my job, or how I feel about something he tells me I am b*tching or if I tell him we need to talk about something it always turns into an aurgument and he'll raise his voice at me. I would talk to my gf's about what's bothering me but they are all far away and not always available. We moved here about 6 mos. ago. Since I quit going to the bars and stuff cause he feels that i don't need to go to such places. I have no friends here. He makes me sometimes feel like I should always have on a happy face. He lives his life and i live mine. Says "I work but that's not good enough for you." even though he would do that ever if we weren't together.
2007-02-14 23:42:07 · 5 answers · asked by burncrystalheven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he seems controlling, but in a way he is looking out for my best interest. When we first met I was a total mess. He help put my head on straight. When we first met we had our habbits, though I guess I have a harder time adjusting to this lifestyle change. though I do feel like I try everything I can...but he just won't bend. He belives in what he thinks and there's no telling him diferent. Claims when we have a home and whatever else we need that then we can have fun and enjoy oursleves. Everyone tells me he' try to mold me. But there's gotta be a way to mold him too. To bring out that emotion thing that we once had. For some reason even when he jokes around with me, I take it seriously and don't want to be bothered.
2007-02-14 23:42:47 · update #1
I mean he does do somethings but when I ask him he sighs or kinda complains about it.Or if he's doing something and I ask for him to help me it's like he gets fustrated says what what is it? in a tone that makes me say forget it, nevermind. I reallly hate it when I say something and he's watching tv, he'll look past or around me to see the tv and not even look at me.
35 minutes ago
I know that I can be emotional at times. But I like to have things in order. I always feel like there's something that needs to be done. I do haold alot in and when I talk baout things sometimes alot does come out. He's says I am decisive(can't ever make a decison, though he always changes his mind about things) But I can't make all the choices myself. I do get fustrated more than I use to and I guess that can make me b*tchy......
2007-02-14 23:43:13 · update #2
In a way you can say we are both stubborn and both contridict things we say. If yo ucan give me any good advice email me please burncrystlheven@yahoo.com
2007-02-14 23:44:36 · update #3
Honey, I'm dead serious when I say this.
Guys do things for a reason. Think about the reason he was "so good to you" that first year. You probably felt that he was emotionally unavailable then, as you do now.
Some men seek out women who are "a mess" so they can fix them up and then have the women be indebted to them. Not in the way you think. Think outside the box, here. He doesn't want a loving, mushy relationship with you. He's not that type. He has things exactly as he wants them and, try to absorb this, he will never, ever change. Trust the voice of experience. How do I know? I'm in it right now. What I get is what I get and it will never be more. It took me years to understand/accept it. And it's not enough for me, and probably not for you either.
That's why I'm saving up to get out.
Hope springs eternal - it wasted me a lot of time. Don't waste your time.
2007-02-14 23:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEEMS like he is over loaded. AND he dont hear any thing else. TOO bad you cant afford an old lady to help you a few hours a week. MAy make u feel better. And give her a few bucks too. AND you can talk to them like a friend.
2007-02-15 07:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to change him you can't just accept him the way he is. and if you can't I hate to say then move on. but sit down and talk to him, tell him how you really feel everything that is bothering you. good luck.
2007-02-15 07:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
site down and discuss the issue with him. probably in his quiet moment, i think your manner of approach and understanding will make him listen to you. and while discussing with him, try to be yourself, dont panic, even if he is angry, just cool him down. he will listent to you.
2007-02-15 07:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the jerk and get on with your life.
2007-02-15 07:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by crazycanadianmonkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋