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I am trying to get over an ex that I fell in love with but can't commit to me right now. Obviously he wasn't putting me 1st priority, as he wouldn't risk loosing me. But he say's that it wouldn't be fair on me to be with him in a relationship when he can be 100% attentive to me the way he should be.. I have spoken to other people and say the can't be that much of a bad person as he was honest and could have led me on. He feels that I am definately a woman that he would be with no doubt about it if he was looking for something serious. He still wants for us to be friends and see what happens but I CAN'T! It hurts so much. People say stay away from things that remind me of him to get over it but I can't. I keep seeing his/or a simular make car that reminds me of him, I pass his work on my way to work on the train. He lives in the same area as my mum, I think of him at work when we use to email each other!! IT IS KILLING ME! I CAN'T GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD, I JUST WANT TO SCREAM.

2007-02-14 23:27:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

21 answers

Go out today and buy 3 journals!
A love one
A hate one
A you one
Put each feeling into it
A love thought about him put it in the love one
An angry hate feeling he broke up with you put it in there
a feeling about your life put it in there
You have to stop living in your head and dump it out onto the pad. Within a 2 week period in your writings you will start to see patterns in your life.

These are YOUR patterns. These are your private thoughts. If you want to share them do if not then dont
I wish you well THIS REALLY HELPS trust me!

2007-02-14 23:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

make it a new start, talk to him in chating, and be cool about everything that past. consider as if nothing has ever happened and you want to know this guy very newly. when going out with him or talking through internet this time try finding negative points about him than positive, however try talking with other guys too at the same time and dating them. with this new start you will find this person not so attractive as you were attracted before, and you would get over with this, as you will better understand this relation lasts not forever, and it has got no any result other than just friendship.

You dont need to suffer for all these, remeber this new start may also come out to be like a new start for him too, and looking at your this new image, towards which he was attracted at the very first point, he might possibly even change his views about you this time, and wish the same as you wish today. However, keep in mind, no matter whatever this time you are never gonna loose for him yourself, and you are never gonna give up to him. You will remain so cool as that no matter whatever his reaction be. Good luck!

2007-02-14 23:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0 0

Listen there are plenty more men out there, you need to get over this guy, get all dressed up some nite and you and your girlfriends go out do a bit of bar hopping and have a good time, you never know you might meet someone you like, i agree the bar scene isnt the best way, but its a start, if your into into the internet dating scene try the link below. its one of the biggest and its free, dont get so down, im a man and ill agree theres a lot of men who can be just plain rotten, Good luck.

2007-02-14 23:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0 0

I Should Be Laughing
Written by Glen Burtnik and Patty Smyth
Lead vocals by Patty Smyth

Somewhere in a scrapbook
There's a rose you gave to me
And a photograph that's torn in half
And all that's left is me

And happily ever after darlin'
Well, that came after I was gone
And they tell you that you can't go back
Then why can't I go on

When I should be laughing at this joke
Dressed up as love, disguised as hope
Isn't is funny after all this time
A tear is falling. When I should be laughing

Sunsets like a painting
Windows like a frame
The night comes in and I begin
To see it all again

When I should be laughing at this joke
Dressed up as love, disguised as hope
Isn't it funny after all this time
Regret can find me. When I should be laughing
I should be laughing at life and all of the tricks that it plays
I should be laughing at time and how fast it's slipping away

Somewhere in a scrapbook
There's a rose you gave to me
With one last look, I close the book
And let the past just be

Cause I should be laughing at this joke
Dressed up as love, disguised as hope
Isn't it funny after all this time
A tear is falling. When I should be laughing.

Recorded by Patty Smyth and released on the Patty Smyth album. Also recorded by Regina Regina and released on the Regina Regina album.

2007-02-14 23:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yeah, I've been that "in love." You're feeling insecurity at losing something dear to you. It will take time. Keep yourself busy with other activities and going out with other friends. Time will create some distance.

As for remaining friends, you will have to judge that over time to as to whether you can keep seeing him or calling to chat. You actually might come to a point where you can just talk about what is happening in your life and keep in contact.

2007-02-14 23:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0 0

You will get over it, it just takes some time. It probably just wasn't meant to be right now. Take a look at some other men and give them a chance, you may just find someone that is 100 percent perfect for you

2007-02-14 23:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0 0

it's a tough one and tons of us have been there.

Spend time with your friends and keep active so you don't sit there and dwell.

Everyone who answers will say time will make it easier but time slows don and the days drag.

I happen to think getting laid by some other attractive person can also help (not always) becuase it gives you a little self esteem boost.

Main one is friends, family and keeping busy.

2007-02-14 23:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by brown one 2 · 1 0

i think he wants to be alone at the moments no commitments nothing.he need his breathing space and i think your crowding him bad.he was your ex so you have a fair idea about him and his full personality.i dont know the reason why you split up maybe he was hurt on the process and doesnt want to happen again.being a friend is not bad then build up that relation again goodluck

2007-02-14 23:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

then scream get it all out of your system, No one said it is easy to let someone you love go, it is hard, but you have to move on. or you are just going to get sick,. Keep your self busy with other friends. and if there is another way to get to work take that route. for a while. eventually if you keep your self busy, it will fade. good luck.

2007-02-14 23:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0 0

You need to MOVE on and let him live his Life and you , Your's. Get out and meet other people and try to stay Buzy. This will keep your mind off of him. Trust me in time, things will get better..

2007-02-14 23:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0 0

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