Im crying everyday and I it's hard for me not to think about home. I'm living in another country for 4 months and it's only my 3rd week. I'm American and all the people I work with are from this country and they're not too friendly. My building where I live has a couple people like me but I can never get ahold of them because they are always working as well...so I end up going out by myself. I'm so homesick. What do I do to get rid of this? My parents say I'll be back in no time but it's a long time away for me especially since I'm emotional. What do I do? Please help.
2007-02-14 21:59:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Culture shock is very real but it will pass. Start to enjoy your new surroundings and make friends with a few folks at your workplace (you implied you're working rather than studying). But remember that many nationalities are a little taken aback by American 'directness', so you may have to tone it down a shade for fear of being mistaken for 'pushy'.
You may not have been ready to try an adventure abroad but before you know it you'll have regrets when it's time to come home! Hang in there!
2007-02-14 22:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bart S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think, you are only there for four months and you have already made it three weeks. I would make the best use of your time while you are there. Try to learn more about the culture and environment. Use this as a learning expierience and take advantage of it. There are alot of people who would love to have the chance to expierience another country. When you go out by yourself where do you go? I would get to know the nieghborhood you are living in. If the people are not friendly at your work could be because they know you are sad and may be afraid to approach you. Try being more friendly and smiling more at work. Also, maybe one day bake some cookies or a favortite of yours and take it in and share it with your coworkers. Everyone likes food!!!
But quit being so sad around your coworkers, they may think you hate their country. I would take advantage of your time away, cheer up and try having a little fun. Also try learning something new every day about the country you are in. You have already made it three weeks there, you almost have one month down. I agree with your parents, you will be back in no time. So quit being sad and start having fun. Start smiling, you are going to be okay! Good luck and hang in there!
2007-02-14 22:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear sweetie i want 2 remind u abt the saying that "when there is a will there is a way".As u are living alone u r representing ur own country in there.Try avoiding realizing that u r a homesick.Start making friends and give them the importance.Help them without any selfishness and by heart.do something which is amazing 2 people.
If u make friends they will not avoid u at all if u r a helper.
try and ask them if they are interested in going 2 a movie or for a picnic.
ur own nature will decide how can u get rid of homesickness
2007-02-14 22:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by keshav_700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be occupied doing some thing worthy and make new friends. It takes at least a year i suppose it depend's a person to get rid of Home sick. If you want to be happy and to be friendly with others, you got to be one of them to build up Trust. Trust is the main key to adupt, communication, appreciation, to make you happy. Those who you work with daily, they know your'e a foreigner, and may be you have a different personality that it takes time for them to understand your needs. Be patient, most of the immigrants where ever they migrate will face same general kind of behaviour and always something missing. Do your'e best to accomplish what you came for, keep in touch with you Parents,learn to face reality any thing , be confident, patient, you be your self and be simple and polite to the people, and trust your instics and give them more time and think possitive. Research, theire Culture, behaviour, habbits. hobby, laws, personal sociol behavior feelings, and How they want to communicate with one another while on the job. Take it easy and you do your part and you will be the one going to be next one of the good influence to others and they all will love you and you will get rid of home sick little by little. Faith is very important.
2007-02-14 22:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Options:
Well if you tell me where you are, I can be your company:
The only thing what helps against home sickness is being busy with enjoyable things, spend time on things you love or like to do.
So, the approach is:
- See what the people of your age do with there free time or as entertainment?
- Look if there is any sightseeing landmarks, museums and/or theaters?
- There's in any country a (news)paper for foreigners with things to do or where you should go to.
Next to that there are a few things you can do on your own in the meantime: Cinema, some shopping (music and DVD stores and/or library where you can find out more things about the location you are).
If none of this help, just take option one.
Use to be in your situation :- )
2007-02-14 22:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dwell on it it will only get worse! the next 9 weeks are going to be tough, but take each day as it comes and look forward to the tiniest of pleasures that you get. Try to lengthen the time between phone calls home,this will make you stronger and give you something to really look forward to and break the time into much smaller easier to deal with chunks, because you have something extremely pleasurable to look forward to in a couple of days.
2007-02-16 03:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you'd tell every one what country we could probably help. Some of us have traveled a lot. Anyhow, one would be a nice upscale pub or sports bar in your area. You don't have to drink but you could be social there. Church group is another. Some local social clubs in the town you're closest to. Culture shock can be miserable. Good luck.
2007-02-14 22:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Bi Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the beggining u always have that sickness time goes by u like it too.just contcat ur family friends and tell them what is all new around you..ur only 3 weeks in that place why dont u try to hang out in some places and meet some people u may think they r not so friendly to u maybe ur not even talk to them try ur best to understand them and leran some words of thier language..
2007-02-14 22:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 3 weeks hun, you just need to give it time. Try to find some interests where you are. There has to be something that would interest you, I mean, why would you be there otherwise. Good luck.
2007-02-14 22:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll get over it soon...make friends and indulge yourself with what you love doing once in a while.i worked in japan and i tell you its really crazy to live in an invironment wit
h diff toungue ,food and culture!!!at first it was difficult but when i found new friends and hang out it with them i learned to love where i am.....the weather is great,i love sushi much more than japs do,and not to mention karaoke box theirs are really awesome plus i learned a new language that up to now im enjoying to exchange with my japs friends.learning new things are great expereince of a lifetime.enjoy it
2007-02-15 01:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by tisya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋