Ok so say YOU started seein some1 & u connected right from the start u thought they were perfect & visa versa. But the other person wasn't lookin 4 a proper relationship at that stage. (I know some of u will say that is bulls***t! but it does happen I hav felt like that b4 & so have a few of my friends, as u just feel that u don't want to hav to answer to anyone & u just don't want to feel tied down at that stage no matter how well u get on wit that person! But what if in the process of u 2 bein 2gether that person messed u about due to the fact that they were confused about what they wanted due to thier inability to commit at the time & in the process hurt u. Would YOU when movin on intend to never b with that person again? Due 2 the fact that they messed u about & didn't put u 1st priority? & if u had gone ur seperate ways & after time the other person HAD realised how much of a quality & asset U are & wanted U bac would you giv them another chance?or would u decline & jus b friends?
2007-02-14 21:51:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is say this person also said that you 2 should be friends now and see what happens in the future due to their inability to commit right now! Would you decline and just be friends because of the Principal?
2007-02-14 21:53:23 · update #1
Since this guy cannot commit right now, he wants to be good friends as he doesn't want to lead me on 4 now. So what about when he does miss my presence and realises that I am the one? I don't know whether to decline and say that we can just be mates? as he DID NOT MAKE ME 1ST PRIORITY BEFORE HAND? AM I RIGHT?
2007-02-14 21:55:15 · update #2
The truth is, if you love someone, you will be more than willing to give them a 2nd chance, and a 3rd chance, and a 10th chance, and even a millionth chance. That wouldn't be even a question. In my relationship, initially, I was terrified of the commitment out of the fear of being abandoned. All those 'I'm a free spirit, want to be free and independent and answer to no one' was a total BS. I was just scared to get hurt, that what it was, honestly. I am very happy and thankful that my significant other was willing to give me that millionth chance.
2007-02-14 22:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if someone says, well, if i don't find anyone that's right for me then i guess you will do but for now your on the back burner. I know how sometimes you dont feal like you want to commit to anything but trying to mend somthing beyond its breaking point is pointless. You'll end up waiting for him to go through his phase and if he ends up with someone else you will be left in the dust holding nothing but a picture of you two and lost memories. I did get back together with my ex but all that did was waste a year of my life. You start to remember why this wasnt' working out and all old fights were brought back up. Regardless if he's going through a "one night stand" phase or not, he should have kept more in contact than just "friends" he should have put you first and if he doesn't and you get together wit him years down the road, your jut making the same mistakes you did in the first place, "if your looking back to see what you missed, you won't see what hit ya"
2007-02-14 22:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to your query ,it sounds like the guy is not ready for commitement and thats the fact.
Going back to an ex can be on friendly terms why not.
If the ex is really and really very serious about commiting with the past gf without reluctant and has accepted his mistakes and is willing to give his best to make the most of this relation by proposing and getting married to this girl like a Man,Then Only would it be a YES.
(OR else it would be a Big NO)
Just being friends will get you into emotionmal level which will be very difficult for you to combat back to yourself after your get involved with him,is that what you want~?///??because at this moment you don't really know where you stand in his friend and is that what you want????
The reason i AM PUTTING UP QUESTIONS in my reply is because your answer is behind them.You got to think and dig and get to know yourself better,rather letting others make your life get more complicated.
You and Only got to think and decide what you want.
because What i tell you to do is not what your going to follow ,so you got to know what you what to do.
All the best.
2007-02-14 22:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did me and B/F started going out when i was 16 we split up when i was 20 i know he use to cheat on me and we kind of drifted apart so decided to call it a day we were too young for commitment.
I never thought we would end up getting back together again but we did 3 and half years later i met him when i was out with a friend one day and we started seeing each other again but he had a child to another girl while we were apart but they didn't work out.
Sometimes it is hard to deal with that and the fact this other woman will be in our lives forever and think if we hadn't split up in the first place that would never have happened but at the same time he treats me so much better now I don't think he wants to loose me again.
So the answer to your question is Yes
Hope this helped
2007-02-14 22:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by katy23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would have to say that if the person wasn't ready to make you their top priority. Then what makes you think that in the future this will change? There is someone out there that will love you and place you 1st in their life. Trust me I know first hand. I was with someone for 12yrs. I would never go back to that person. I found someone that loves me and always puts me first. Maybe you could stay friends with this person. But enjoy life hun. Don't settle. You may find that special someone when you least expect it. Good luck!
2007-02-14 22:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he isn't missing you as such, but missing have you on his terms. If he wasn't ready to commit before, and he isn't ready to commit now....then you would be travelling down a path already travelled, and you know how that ends.
If he is ready to commit, because he has realised how much he does miss you, then start out as friends...this way you get to build the trust that he isn't going to hurt you like that again. If you don't build the trust first then there will never be anything significant between you.
One the other hand, and you never quite mentioned it...if you aren't ready to commit and he isn't...then really there is no harm in going for it, as long as you are both aware that it is casual.
I believe in your question you already answered yourself...you just don't see it. Good luck with it, but remember to do what is right for you...and don't let lust get in the way.
2007-02-14 22:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its over would be over. There is no point in doing that, they are not worth it. move on, there shld be somebody waiting for you one day. that's destiny. It happens to me once.
so I know how it feels. But time will tell the difference.
2007-02-14 22:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by 甲丞子 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you still love your ex that give him a chant but go and see some one to just dint sat around and Waite for him
2007-02-14 22:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just wait and see what happens....don't try to plan out your whole life and every decision you might make in the future...it never works out the way you think it will.....relax....let some of life just happen.....good luck
2007-02-14 22:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So in short u not happy with my first answer
2007-02-14 22:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋