Transvestite tendencies or just plain normal???

Question

I was using my boyfriends phone last night to take some pictures and found some pics of legs in fishnet stockings and a pic of someone in a skirt and stockings (obviously taken by the person wearing them as that particular shot was done in a mirror if that makes sense...) I confronted my boyfriend as i immediately assumed (as most would!) that he had cheated on me (recently - the pics werent on there a month or so ago!) & been taking pics of "her" on his phone..He went quiet & upset looking & slowly admitted that it was HIM in the pics - he says that he had gone out and bought the stockings and then tried on his sisters shoes (heels) and a skirt.....he seemed genuine - cried with what appeared to be embarrassment - i comforted him (because i love him dearly and dont want to lose him if that is the truth about pics) but i still feel confused. did he maybe just come up with gud excuse to hide cheating? If so, i would have thought there'd be pics of "her" face/other body parts??

He is 29 and says he hasnt ever done it before and didnt like it - wouldnt do it again... i dont care if he wants to dress as a woman all the TIME to be honest - just wondered what others think - i dont want to think he has cheated - and as i said - surely if itd been a woman there'd be pics of things other than just legs and a pic in mirror - the pics were obviously taken by the "wearer"!!!!

He is 29 and says he hasnt ever done it before and didnt like it - wouldnt do it again... i dont care if he wants to dress as a woman all the TIME to be honest - just wondered what others think - i dont want to think he has cheated - and as i said - surely if itd been a woman there'd be pics of things other than just legs,shoes and a pic in mirror - the pics were obviously taken by the "wearer"!!!!

oops - sorry ... haste has made me post same bit twice - sorry!!

Rock Star Outlaw - Sorry to single you out as you of course are entitled to your own opinion, but dont be such a bigot!! Really - i mean if I can deal with my boyfriend doing that, why must small minded people make silly comments such as yours?! Open your mind - embrace eccentricities!!

Just to stop all this "why were u snooping through his phone" stuff - i wasn't...funnily enough i was all dressed up (in fishnets,etc!!!) and he went out for a cigarette so i thought it'd be cool to take pics on his phone, then txt him TODAY whilst he would b at work and tell him to have a look - hahaha - my sexy plan backfired rather spectacularly - anyway - his phone said that to take some pics, i needed to delete some pics as photobox was full - hence i was looking to delete pics - he has no problem with me using his phone etc and i have no problem with him using mine as i have nothing to hide!!!

Answer 1

Y' know, there is nothing wrong with a little experimentation! he probably thaught that he might like it, tried it and decided that its not for him. At least he had the courage to try for himself. You are a lovely girl for understanding, and i am sure that with a person as nice as you in his life, there is nothing to worry about at all.

Answer 2

At the end of day ask him to be totally honest with you. And show him you genuinely care, and will support him. If he enjoys wearing women's clothes and you can accept that fine. The problem here is it may go deeper even as far as Transexuality, you have to be prepared for that. One of my Friends recently told me that he wants to have a sex change, and listening to him his life has been really bad, because of these issues. I am not saying this is the road your b/f wants to go down, but may be he is confused? and the mess my Friends head is in, I would think he may be needs some one to talk to? to help perhaps sort a few points out? or just listen. There is so much pressure on people to conform and narrow minded idiots who make living even more difficult, that sometimes we as people become lost. My only advice would be to talk and see where you and he stands, I doubt his intentions were to hurt you, and probably feels like he is embarrassed now you have seen the pics.

Answer 3

Have a good look at the pics if you still have them. Do they look like your boyfriends legs? If so then maybe he did just try it for fun. He is obviously really embarrassed - men can't deal with this sort of thing! Sounds genuine to me and you did the right thing. Nothing shameful in this at all. Men are strange creatures and don't react or think the same way as us women so it's good to take him at this word. Obviously if any other signs start appearing you can challenge him again. I doubt it though.

Answer 4

I wouldnt say this was transvestite tendencies at all, most men love the whole fishnet stockings and heels look do you dress this way for him at all?? maybe he was just trying to see what it would look like as he only took pics of his lower parts where he was dressed up and not of his whole body which makes me think it was just the legs in stockings and heels he wanted to see.

i'd say its normalish what he did you did right to talk to him and comfort him i doubt he's cheating as most men would rather admit to that than dressing up in womens clothes. just sit him down talk to him ask him why he did it was it a fantasy is there anything he would like you to do or dress up as. you seem to have a very open relationship anyway for him to open up with the truth. good luck x

Answer 5

Just to let you know a Transvestite is not the same thing as a Cross Dresser!!

If you think he is a Transvestite I would be a little worried as he may in time want to have the change (I'm not saying that all transvestites do) which would be an immense strain on your relationship and very hard to deal with it wouldn't be fair on him if you were OK with it then suddenly wasn't if he believes that you will support him through something so hard then you drop him it would be very hard on him. Just make sure he is who he says he is so to speak and if not try and support his decision.

If he is a cross dresser then just try and support him (as you seem to be doing)

Answer 6

he's a Crossdresser and there is no longer something that you ought to pressure about. in accordance to varied information, between 5-10% of the male inhabitants in the U.S. Crossdress. maximum are heterosexual. that's been shown that there is no longer something incorrect with someone who crossdresses. multiple books and papers conceal this very challenge. he's hiding his face in the picture's because of how society frowns upon crossdressing. Society feels that it really is a sexual perversion and or a psychological affliction. no longer something might want to be further from the actuality, He does with the objective to disguise his identity so he does no longer get ridiculed or worse. An social gathering is the Peter Oiler case. proper advice, pass with it, appreciate it and run with it. He is often used with precisely what you're conversing about once you're saying your ft harm from wearing heels, or a thanks to stay away from a run in pantyhose. Plus because he knows the outfits more desirable sensible, he's in a more desirable sensible position that could help you save and could no longer wince even as strolling right into a lady's outfits save. you may check out it like this, you no longer in elementary words now have a boy buddy, yet to boot a lady buddy to boot.

Answer 7

Some guys like to dress as a woman, not for sexual kicks only, but to help identify with their female side.
I have a very strong female side myself, I paint my toe nails, shave my legs and I have long hair, BUT I have been happily married for 18 years to a lovely girl and we are both very happy.
In China, a man who sometimes dresses as a woman is considered to be more of a man than one that doesn't. It's all to do with the energies of life called Yin and Yang.
EVERYTHING is both male and female in equal parts and so are people. For every part that is Yin, there is an equal part that is Yang.
Crossdressers or TV as they are rudely known, are not always gay or bisexual. He is perfectly normal and loves you very much, as you love him.

Answer 8

Interesting question. I don't think its normal. Some guys will tell any lies to hide the fact they are cheating. Has he had any acting classes? The only thing I like in fishent stockings is a woman.

Answer 9

It could be that another woman took pics of herself and sent it to your boyfriend?
Or, that he just wanted a pic of a pair of legs in fishnets on his phone.

Why were you looking through his phone? was it because you were uncertain of his faithfulness and is he allowed to look through your phone also?

Be honest with each other.

Answer 10

Everyone has their own thing. I believe that it was him, especially since he cried when he told you. It was probably shame. He's lucky to have someone so understanding. Most people would think him gay, which I'm sure he's not.