Why o Why do men just want me for sex and nothing more? It's always been the same..... Not sounding big headed as its not what i want but i have many men who want to sleep with me but none who want to be with me (which is what i so dearly long for)
Yes sex is fun but there's no substance there.
Is it just because i go for idiots, who like to treat me bad?
Where have all the nice men gone?
2007-02-14 21:47:10 · 41 answers · asked by RAX1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are plenty of nice men. They're the ones you rejected in favor of the ones who just wanted you for sex.
2007-02-14 21:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Can't dance? Try getting too busy for sex. Be unavailable. Get involved in something that turns you on besides being somebody's boy toy. When you are fully involved, you'll meet people who are also fully involved, and are like you. Commonality is a big issue for couples. Best have it behind you at the start. But remember the sex, be proud that you are wanted for it, there are just so many things to be wanted for. Keep it a secret. Your new man will be happily surprised. Find a few good female friends, someone who has some experience. Work on your reputation. Remember about men, you know when they are lying, their lips are moving.
2007-02-14 22:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I recon it is a bot of both I am afraid: good men are hard to find, and clearly you attract a type of men.
I more so think you get infatuated too quickly and like the attention men give you. There is nothing wrong with that, as everyone wants attention. But I think you should be a more picky and critical about your partner to be, before giving it all. Assess his personality, what he has got to offer, what he feels for you and if he likes you for real (instad of seeing you as a sh@g) - before hitting the sack. There is no need to have sex straight away, when you are involved with a man. It can wait a few weeks.
2007-02-14 22:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by MM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone creates their own reality. Within yours you have unresolved issues that you replay and replay by the men that you choose. If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always had. This statment starts with your thoughts. If you think the same things, you will say the same things and then you will do the same things, and end up with the same things.
Try thinking differently about your self, question why you think certain things is it necessary? is it true? does it matter what true is?
When you start to address these things you will create a different energy about your self and different paths will open up for you and different people will enter your life.
Also the culmination of things you have done and relationshipd you have done is not WHO you are. It is simply the things you have done. Get rid of andy negative view you have of your self or men.
Good luck... its not an easy journey, but its the only one i would be on right now... its called life.
*hug*
2007-02-14 21:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mindwalker 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
they have not gone anywhere but if you are (forgive the phrase) giving it away it is not suprising if they are taking it. I suggest that you don't go out with anyone for the next six months and the next person you go out with treble the time it usually take s before you have sex with them . I have given this advice to a lot of women and you would be surprised how successful it has been (OH and never, ever, use the phrase 'I m not like that ). Just expect inside to be treated with respect and you will be. I'd love to know if you try this and if it works.
2007-02-14 22:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1, either it is becos u are looking in the wrong places
2, u come across as if u want only sex from them
3, u don't allow the relationship to build up but rush straight into bed with them, so they think u are easy and just use u.
the nice men are out there. u need to step back and think about what u want and the signals u send across to men. do u need change ur attitude and behaviour? when u meet someone u like, work at getting to each other first, without sleeping with them and see what happens.
GOOD LUCK with ur search!!!!!!!
2007-02-14 23:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by rambo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends who you look for and what clothes you wear honestly it depends how you present yourself. i know it sounds stupid and i'm not saying that you dress like a **** or anything of the sort but sometimes men look at the way you sit, whether you have a twinkle in your eye they look at everything and people also look for vulnerable people if you want something so bad sometimes you give yourself away too easily. try just not sleeping with somebody for as long as you can. if they wont wait then it's there loss you obviously deserve more than to be used. so don't allow yourself to be in that position again next time you see a fella that you like the look of make sure you hoold the cards and make sure that you give him sex when you are ready and when you have made your mind up that he isn't just using you
2007-02-14 21:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by confused 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok i would say the reason for this is the signs you're putting out there. unfortunatley for women the way they dress can make a man think they just want sex ie, if you always go out in skimpy outfits (which i'm prone to wearing myself in the summer) or if you have confidence, also if your giving it up to easy the word gets around so people will think you're not relationship material. try going out in sexy but sophisticated clothes somewhere nobody would really know you, and dont give it out too soon you'll be suprised at the difference.
2007-02-14 21:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well hun it sounds like you give it up a bit too soon - you should make a guy wait - if he genuinely likes you and wants to be with you a guy will respect your decision to hold off jumping into bed - something like a one month rule - if he sticks around that long then you know hes a keeper. Im not having a personal dig at you - but men never stay around long enough with a girl that gives it up to readily - they see you as an easy no strings attached lay - you deserve better hun - even if you're tempted to sleep with a guy too soon dont ok!?
xx
2007-02-14 22:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is down to how you project yourself.
The way you carry yourself and react with men will draw particilair types towards you. It is also down to what kind of man you are attracted to as well. If you find the bad boy attractive then your very likely to end up with just sexual encounters with guys.
Also a degree of holding back works. If your going to cut the dogs out the crowd not laying in to easily works.
Doing things for you also works as once your happier in yourself, you will project a happier outward image.
Nice men are out there just give them ago but only you know what your attracted to.
2007-02-15 00:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by sak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All the nice men have gone off with the girls who dont want sex all the time with different men.
Its not very nice to think that Oh I would really like to stay with her she must be nice she has bonked everyone.
Try saying NO NO NO NO girl then you will win some respect and maybe then you will meet someone nice who does not want to get into your Knickers but wants you for what you are.
2007-02-14 21:55:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋