I express sympathy for my friend who has been to a mental institution. He has major depression. I have seen how emotionally hurt he has been from his ex-girlfriend who he was going to marry five years ago. He has told me many times that he wants her back. But the reality is that she will not take him back. I guess he still thinks there’s a chance. He has not had a date for years as this has affected his relationships with woman. It’s not fair… for an ex to devastate someone else’s emotions and whole life. What should I do to help him out of his depressive state?
2007-02-14 21:45:25 · 7 answers · asked by Adam Y 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, depression is not fun to have nor is it fun to watch a close friend go through. The best thing I would suggest is to keep him talking. Talk about all sorts of things... but don't pressurize him to talk about stuff he doesn't feel comfortable about. Exercise produces loads of endorphins and helps stimulate the brain especially the part where the chemical imbalance is that causes depression. So exercising is the best way to help him feel good about himself again. Eating a healthy diet too also helps. And basically being a friend is all that you can do. Hopefully when he realizes that there is more to life than girls and particularly this one girl he will move on. It will be a bumpy ride but I am sure with the help of doctors, counselors, medication and a great friend like you he should pull through. Good luck and wish him the best for me.
2007-02-14 22:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depressive illness is a very nasty condition with a stigma still attached.talking to him is probably the best treatment,get him out of the house get him active,walk and talk.talk positively about his future.as the saying goes there are plenty more fish in the ocean(girls)im sure because of his illness he would be on anti depressive tablets.take him to the doctor,go with him for company,even go into the doctors room with him,if he would like you to,but he certainly needs a boost of some sort you sound like a real friend and im sure you can help him out.it might be hard going but together you can do it
2007-02-15 06:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~First of all, it's not about being fair. His emotions belong to him, he owns them, not her. His not being able to get over her his whole life is not HER problem.
I think it's sweet that you care for your friend, just be there when he needs you. Play cards or board games, keep him busy.
I'm sure he has a doctor and they've prescribed medications for him. Make sure he takes it according to the directions. He should not drink alcoholic beverages with the medication.
Time, medication and counseling will get him through this, not you or his ex-girlfriend. You aren't responsible for him though, he is.~
2007-02-15 05:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get help or go away. It's impossible to help someone get mental health help if he/she doesn't see the need for it. And it is very stressful on a friendship to bear the burden of therapist, mother-father-friend to someone else, in terms of energy levels.
If he wants to ruin his life over an ex-love and remain immersed in the illusion and delusion of that fantasy--you CAN'T help. Not until you are asked to help. I know it sucks, but each of us has the right to f--k up our lives--personal choice and all. You can buy books to educate--suggest therapy--seeing a professional--you can do those promptings...but beyond that- a person hits his/her own personal bottom and no one can save you from yourself. No one!
2007-02-15 06:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should smack him in the mouth and tell him to be a man. Every year, MILLIONS of guys get dumped. Do they all go off the deep end? NO! He needs to get a damn grip and quit crying this poor-me BS. And you quit feeling sorry for him; he's not a poor suffering soul in need of help and attention....he's a pain in the @$$, behaving like a 4yr old. Tell him to grow up and move on, then sever contact until he starts behaving like a real man.
2007-02-15 05:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Doc 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Unless you are a professional I don;'t see how you could help him, except to offer him love and understanding.
2007-02-15 05:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing,life as itself is unpredictable...you can only be yourself and keep his arguments authentic
2007-02-15 05:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Srbo Sutaric 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋