confused about him?

Question

i have a long distance rel with my boyf of 4 months i see him every 3 weeks,for the last week he hasn't returned my calls and called when he says he will,i have spoken to him even though i've had to chase him up,he says he's been so busy and tired from work,im starting to get suspicious even though he says he's not that kind of guy to cheat,when i question him he gets angry and tells me to chill out,last night valentines he told me he was going for a dinner meeting with some clients and he'd call me later,he didnt when i tried to call him his fone was off,he called me l8 at nite n siad his battry died and went on to explain how the meeting went,my question is this,is he cheating?we dont see each other often,ive met his family and hes met mine,we've talked about a future n im seeing him tommorrow.he's told me he wouldnt drive 200 miles to see me if he didnt care,how should i question him without letting him know im suspicious and getting him angry?help please.

i spent new year and xmas with him n his family and his close mates,he lives at home,his family really like me,we met on the net,we're both at the age of settling down n getting married,he wants to be married by next year.he

Answer 1

its amazin the amount of problems we can solve when we sit down and discuss them rationally. give him a chance esp if u have talked of havin a future together. long distance relationships are hard work and u need to trust each other. don't allow ur suspicions to destroy a good relationship. if u find out he is cheating on u, then that's different but at the moment, give him the benefit of the doubt. trust him.

Answer 2

They always say long distance relationships don't last, to tell you the truth, aND I'm sorry to say it, but it reads to me like hes cheating, Things just don't add up, They sound fishy to me, 1st he don't return your calls, 2nd he don't call when he says he will, 3rd you should not have to chase someone just to talk to them, 4th he can not be that busy and that tired every day, not to drop you a line, 5th every guy is gonna tell you they are not the cheat in kind, 6Th I'd put money he took someone else out for dinner, that's why hes phone was off, honey I don't know any other way except for snoop in around while hes gone, personally, I'd dump him and find someone better, you deserve better, you know you do!!Wish You All The Best Good Luck

Answer 3

well this is the biggest n most common problem of having a long distance relationship... and also at times lead to break ups....

if your really love him and want to have a life together with him... do not confront him or show suspicions.. nobody likes it when one drives for 200miles expecting something nice n romantic.. you can act as if nothing happen..

i do not think he will tell you the truth anyway if you confront him..rather he will act/ get angry ..

just wait for sometime and n observe his behavior if you are sure that he is cheating n lying about his busy schedule ,then ask him rather than accusing him of cheating .

ask him if he needs break ?

Answer 4

You dont sound happy and its that what a relationship is about making each other happy. if you have to question something its not meant to be.

i was with someone in exactly the same situation and he didnt cheat on me but he did the same as what he is doing. Its not worth the hassel.

There is no way to question him with out looking suspicious. Maybe its best to go your seperate ways and find someone closer to home.

Good luck

Answer 5

its sounds as if he is cheating. he has the upper hand because u are far away and he knows he can get away with this.if his phone was of he probably was intimate with some girl. most men i've dealt with either turned their phone to silent or cut it off when he knows its time for sex. one day rent u a car- hope it has tinted windows, go there and see. u not spying u are relieving ur suspicion. u dont want to regret it someday if he is telling the truth and u called it off and u dont want to later on regret not calling it off because his behavior/ suspicion is ongoing and u tired of it, and u come to realization he's cheating

Answer 6

sorry to be blunt but it seems he has met someone else, blokes who do the dirty always twist things to make you feel shite for mentioning stuff on there guilty conscience!
If he really cared he would have made an effort to call you yesterday(there are other phones) not twist it to make you feel grateful that he is going out of his way to drive 200 miles to see you..
Maybe you shud surprise him with a visit, you'll find out stuff but if your starting to not trust him after 4 months maybe its time to look into a short distance relationship
Good luck hun x

Answer 7

no u cant tell he is definetly cheating .....if he is really busy so this would be the case and u said u r both mature so he is that king of guys who r practical and so u may feel he is no longer caring about u.my advice to u is to change ur way of questioning him ,try indirect questions or another approach to know and assure urself . trust him this is the bets thing u do .

Answer 8

I have to say i think he sounds like he is cheating. He says he wouldn't drive 200 miles if he didn't care...its convieniant you live 200 miles away...away from his current life ..he can keep you seperate. I'd dump him....whatever happened..if he is telling the truth or not..he didn't have the manners and decency to ring you last night. He didn't care about your feelings and think about you....dump him and find another one!

Answer 9

Its hard with long distance relationships and i think you should try and trust him because the same happened to me and i was wrong even though it was so suspicious. just listen to your heart and also see if he treats you differently and if so then you can start questioning him :)

Answer 10

The answer is simple

Do you see him over the Christmas and New Year holidays.

If not then there is your answer.