my friends husband is a man of no interest in anything(nor in work or in family)to be specific he says " i can give only 1000rs per month for the family, u have to do all needs within that" what to do with a person of this sort?
she has a boy of 7yrs old?
due to parents compultion she has married him?
now she is working for the child of no enjoyment in life?
2007-02-14 20:49:06 · 17 answers · asked by rabbits 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Divorce him and look a boy separately and ask her to study him well. Why she want to work for that husband too? and for that toothless indisciplined and no interest of anything needed. Hence that attitude called escapism., Escaping from all duties.
2007-02-14 20:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by JJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rs 1000 per month is insufficient to support a family of 3 these days. So your friend must be doing some work already. And the reason for her working is not supplementing her husband's income but supporting the family because of an inconsiderate and lazy husband. She doesn't really need a man like this in her life. She must think seriously whether she wants to stay with him, just for the sake of the relationship.
2007-02-15 11:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, being an Indian myself, I find this appalling - how men can be so much like the pigs we get called so often never ceases to amaze me. I would suggest this - advise her to file a divorce and get her the hell out of there. I know of several cases where the women have hung on and turned into shells of their former selves, bitter and vengeful against their children. No amount of advice other than this can help her other than trying direct confrontation or marraige counselling. So if you really value her as a friend, you should speak your mind on the state of their affairs. Divorce is not taboo, so she has nothing to fear.
2007-02-17 20:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Your friend needs to persue a suitable career such that boy is not neglected. Things will change to better side. I am sure , your friend is qualified to persue a career. If not, she needs to increase qualification for that.
2.Happy life has proper distribution of efforts towards various factors, that husband also must realise. One has to forgive errors, appreciate qualities, live together, minimise conflicts, and enjoy married life.
2007-02-15 05:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by neela m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, life is very short. We should not rely on other for our happiness. Nobody can make us unhappy without our willingness,so look at the coming life,gain your confidence,and try to be self-reliable. Enjoy every moment of life,just concentrate on the future and happiness of your son,and you too,because a person who is unhappy can not make others happy.Don't try to live for others, it is your life,live it with full of confidence,and enjoyment,and never surrender yourself against circumstances,and sapre some time for yourself,too.
Wish you a very happy life with bunch of happiness and hopes.
2007-02-15 05:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by AJAY P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you care so much for your friend then u take care of her. If you are a girl then advice her to have another affair. If you are a guy ....... you love her and give that enjoyment she wants without spoiling family life
2007-02-15 04:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Pankaj B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see living a life as a wife to that kind of husband is like living in
a hell or fire,instead of living a life like that she can make a divorc
e and she can search for a new person who has a kind heart and
who can help her and who can be a good husband to her till her
last second of life.
2007-02-18 08:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to speak about his commitments in the family..
and better go for a marrriage counseling .If he is not responsible and not fullfiling the role of husband and father .. she needs to think about being with him Both husband and wife should share responsiblities ,probs,joys, pains... He is not fulifiling the role of husband.. so just think about it..
2007-02-15 07:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by dv_theos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her husband is useless to her & she is having to take care of herself & her child then she does not need her husband & she should leave him. It would be difficult but she would be much happier with her life.
2007-02-15 04:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her know that u r always there for her,come what may.if she is still staying with the man then its a path chosen by her,incase she decides to confront the man be by her side.
2007-02-15 11:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by mots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋