Depression : ( Can someone help me overcome this... or try to teach me to be a somebody not a nobody.?

Question

Ok, Ive been told that I may be diagnosed with depression, which If you can help me in anyway my signs are:
SOCIAL: My social is non-existent, I can't go anywhere by myself, I always have to have my sister with me or a friend, someone...I'm scared of the phone... which by that I mean.. when someone calls that I don't know who it is, I get someone to answer it, or let it rang, I can't call anyone, I don't know why, I keep thinking they would say somthing horrible to me.. and I never dealt with anyone rude.. I can't order from anywhere.. inside resturants, or eat in them... If Im hungry I go through the Drive-thru.. It's crazy
JOB: I'm unemployed, Im to afraid to go to interviews, or if I think about getting a job, I keep thinking all the bad things that could happen, or that I might messup somthing and get yelled at
LOVE: I havent been with anyone for 7 years, and I'm afraid to meet anyone for a date.. or to hang out
And I refuse to take pills for it.. because It can lead to suicide

Answer 1

It's good that you are reaching out for some help in this area, but this is not the forum to do so. It seems you have some support, but if they are answering the phone for you they seem to be enabling to behave like this.

It is possible that you are clinically depressed, but you also show signs of anxiety and agoraphobia. I cannot make a diagnosis over a computer.

It is always your choice how what treatments you wish to persue. However, I believe you are dismissing medication out of hand. Improperly used medication can lead to suicide. Prozac is the most notorious, and has been strictly regulated since it has been found to cause feelings of hopelessness in patients who are beginning treatment. However, most medications that are commonly used today, the one I recommed most often is Zoloft, does not have any history of causing suicide and has a high success rate.

Regardless of what you have, it seems that you have been dealing with this for a long time, and that you cannot overcome it alone in the situation you are in. I would recommend a trip to see a counselor. Not a doctor who would give you medication, but someone who would give you an outsider's perspective.

In the end it is you who will make the decision whether you will heal or not. Good luck, and I hope you are prosperous.

Answer 2

You should try counselling. The pills/suicide theory may be a myth. Some depressed people commit suicide whether they are on pills or not. Maybe the type of pill didn't work for them. Maybe talk to a doctor about this or do a little research.
Some websites that may have some good advice for you:
www.happyplace.net
Beyond blue
Reach out
and there are many others I'm sure

Answer 3

Hi Gina, Don't call yourself no body. You are some body and just need some help. I think you have that disorder that some people are afraid to go anywhere,and sometimes to leave the house. I wish i could remember it's name. This disorder can cause a lot of stress. There has to be something you can take that won't cause you to do yourself in. Why not go to the doctor and ask him if there is a disorder that fits the problems you are having. You may get lucky and there is something safe you can take. Just hang in there and you will beat this.. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 4

Take 5-HTP. It is the herbal equivalent of an anti-depressant without all the horrible side effects. The NOW brand in the orange bottle is the best and cheapest. Here is a link to read about it:

http://www.lightparty.com/health/5-htp.h...

These are natural, they will not give you suicidal thoughts

Answer 5

Depression is a evil insidious disease that clouds your perception of yourself and situations that may arise but what we are talking about is a real medical illness and you need to seek professional help. I have been diagnosed with depression and I am medicated, I take 150mg of Efexor each day other wise I would be in big big trouble! If I had diabetes I would take insulin to keep me healthy and alive therefore I have no shame or fear in taking anti-depressants but, you are right there is risks to the medications that is why it must be monitored by medical professionals and you must speak up if you need help. I started on a low dose of Lexapro and my dose increased and my medication was adjusted to suit but I didn't have any side affects other than now being happy! Your fear of going out and dealing with people is very normal a good friend of mine became very agoraphobic but with her help she was set weekly homework to over come her fears which started out as going to the letter box every day and each week she took baby steps further and further and now she is free! Everybody is somebody, I believe no one is better than myself but I am not better than them. Wishing you good health and happiness and I urge you to see your doctor.

Answer 6

i don't know how old you are honey, but today is the 1st day of the rest of your life. not all meds cause those kinds of thoughts, besides sounds like you already are leanin that way. in life there are no answers just choices. for you ya can choose to be part of it or waste your precious time outside of it. look in the mirror, see how unique you are and start livin, before your life has passed ya by, lifes hard, but it beats the alternitive. e-mail me we'll talk.

Answer 7

Have you tried a psychologist? Usually they can help you find out what might be causing these fears without meds. Have you looked into the possibility that it might be agoraphobia and not depression?

Answer 8

hi, did you ever tryied to be just you? have you ever told to your friends jokes, the jokes you really like? (or your brother-it's better for the first joke)...try it, u will see happiness and this will make u happy!
don't have jokes? look for them on the internet!
best regards!