Do parents understand their children?

Answer 1

Only a few, and even then not all the time. My parents are really great and supportive but sometimes they just don't get it. Maybe it's due to the differences in culture then and now. One thing though, as we get older, we tend to understand our parents more and if we don't appreciate the things they did for us, at least we can forgive them for their failings.

Answer 2

I think I do - it's funny, as a parent I haven't forgotten what it's like to be young, most of the time I can totally relate to what my kids are saying and can remember feeling the same way when I was younger - but I now know what it's like to be responsible for another person's life. The things I do today will effect my children forever - being a parent is a huge responsibility, something I didn't understand when I was growing up - if I would've been able to understand that - I wouldn't have demanded my way as much as I did - I would've listened a lot more and realized my parents weren't stupid, and every decision they made on my behalf was made with my best interest at heart.

Answer 3

Parents understand their children more than they know, usually because they have been there and suffered or learned by the pitfalls. Perhaps parents should allow their children to learn the hard way and let them make their own mistakes. Often it is the intention of parents to do this but because of the love they have for their children it can be difficult. Not until you actually are a parent will it be clear exactly where I am coming from.

Answer 4

It depends on the parent and the child. Its not always a case of liking or taking an interest in the child it can also be personality.Some have more combative personalities and therefore are more likely to argue about little things. Others will have a lot in common and will be friends as well as family.

In other cases a parent may live in another state, country or work several jobs and they just may not get the chance.

Most parents would love to know and understand there kids, but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way.

Answer 5

On occasions if the parents relate to what the child is dealing with they can understand it. But you have to walk a mile in somebody's shoes before you know what they are experiencing, even then you can only begin to understand.
The only way to understand somebody is to really go though the same experiences , and only those parents who still have a young heart can understand!

Answer 6

Parents were young and foolish at one time ---but as life goes on they mature--like you should---and they see the mistakes that they made--hoping you don't do the same--or that you learn from your mistakes. Things go better with them if you just always do the right thing, do good in school, work on your self confidence and maturity. They are parents--not friends---they only want whats best for you--regardless of how you rebel or complain-----they have been there--so give them a break and just try to be good.You will be 18 and on your own soon enough---you'll see what I mean. Good luck, stand tall, smile and have a really nice life.

Answer 7

As far as we understand ourselves. I look at my children, don't want them to make the same mistakes, want them to have an easier life. And not do all the dumb stupid things I did.
So yes, I think I understand my children. Certainly, they think so. They often tell me "How did you know?"
Children basically need love, a feeling of acceptance. They need a background that is peaceful and calm and gives them the space to grow.
I also know that I want to believe in them, I want to support them and guide them. But because your children are only half you, I think it is important to have a partner, so that you can both have input and see things from another person's perspective.
It's not just about understanding your children, it is also about getting your children to understand life.

Answer 8

i understand mine but i try and remember what i was like at that age . and some parents forget how they used to be , and how they used to be is the norm ...
my daughter and i are very close best freinds and mother and daughter , also im the same with my mum and always have been . i think you need to be freinds to understand your children not just parents . thats my personal veiw .my mother was very understanding towards me and my sister and we gave her a good share of stress through the years , but we worked through it together .

Answer 9

If children are understanding.

Answer 10

I am not young enough to know everything - Oscar Wilde

We can never truly understand what drives someone else, and with an age gap it is exponentially more difficult. I don't understand my kids and I spend hours and hours with them trying to.