the thing is he lives in a far town and he only comes for holidays when he's there we are the best of friends or lovers to say but immediately he comes back i only like the first meeting for getting romantic tho not for so long, but he gets aggressive for sex causing a big quarrel that i dont care and all he can think of. the thing is every time he see's me he wants to have sex regardless of where it is.help me guys i'm i the one with a problem or is it that we are not for each other he is always doubtful that i'm cheating with my friends tho he's never wanted to meet any of them.
2007-02-14 19:29:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think at the back of your mind you think hes using you for sex - because hes only around during the holidays - and you're not sure if this is just your fear or truth.. you dont want urself to be used - and hence hate it wen he asks for sex.
the answer to your query i believe is to spend a li'l more time together without being physical. once you're comfy with eachothr you can take ur relationship to teh next level.
2007-02-14 19:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to have sex only the first time that you see him after a long absence and then you get upset with him for wanting to have sex again during the same visit after you already had it with him meaning sex was what you wanted and you think he has the problem. Whew. I believe you answered your own question unless aggressive means rape.
2007-02-14 19:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is aggressive about getting some even though you have made it clear that you don't want to, then stay away! It is hard to let someone go, but he doesn't care about you, sorry hon. It may be hard to believe, but one day he may rape you if he demands it that way and you refuse. Even if he doesn't, you will regret doing anyhting with him when you find a real man who respects you. My ex was like that and I was sure it was love, but now I've been with a real man for 4 years and he never bothers me after I say no. He has to respect your feelings, not how your insides feel girl.
2007-02-14 19:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because while you are missing him, you are longing for a romantic deep love, when men can be wired differently associating being romantic with sex. That could be it, but I would tell him that it makes you feel as if that is all he wants when you miss him so much. All you want to do is sit and talk, or hold him.
2007-02-14 19:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's most probably in the r/s for sex. and u most probably hate him for his disrespect for you and his distrust in you. if u think that he worth sticking arnd for then try to change his mindset. tell him why u dun wanna have sex now and that he shld trust u. if not then there's no point in carrying on. the fundamentals of the a r/s is trust. cuz u can't be sticking to each other all the time. and it's like if he's constantly breathing down ur neck u wun be able to take it.
2007-02-14 19:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by minminmei1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it may could do something emotionally. probable a prior relationship or something would have led to him to be emotionally unattached to intercourse. if i've got been u i wuldn't take it in my view.... perchance he has some matters. now, i do no longer bear in mind u having ever unique if u r a guy or a woman...and motives why i say it is via fact your question is interior the gay/lesbian area... i'm assuming you're a woman... yet...in case you're a guy, and all he had grew to become into lesbian porn... then he probable wasn't gay and grew to become into probable emotionally in love with u and grew to become into probable the only clarification why he grew to become into in u... yet perchance sexually he wasn't/nor will ever be attracted to adult men.... yet whilst u r a woman... i'd say he has some matters that would make him dislike intercourse or he truthfully could be gay -exceedingly provided that his lesbian porn belonged to his brother. yet do no longer take it in my view, u adult men have been mutually for a mutually as, and u maximum have enjoyed being with him -even with each thing u have been 2gether for 2 years. whether it form of appears like u adult men are meant to be acquaintances and not fanatics ..... so be there for him as a chum. sturdy success, and that i choose u greater valuable success in ur next relationship
2016-10-02 04:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the guy is faithful and isn't sleeping w/ anyone else and he only sees you on occasion then it should be understandable why he wants to have sex when he's with you. It sounds like you're being selfish. If you don't want to be with him sexually let him be w/ someone else.
2007-02-14 19:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jay K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
doing sex in a true love is the suicide of true love so avoid to do sex bcoz it's my own experience as soon as u will do sex after some days of doing sex you will find of it's own that his intrest is reducing in you so you can understand that you should avoid sex move on like tat only i respect your feelings
2007-02-14 19:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by loveguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is only coming to your town for sex break up and save him a trip
2007-02-14 19:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just a fu*ck buddy for him if all he does is come see you for sex. Have you ever thought about getting someone local for a real relationship? hey its just a thought.
2007-02-14 19:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋