My husband passed away last year. I was so depressed, and now I'm trying to revive, but it's so difficult

Question

What should I do to revive from my sadness ?

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose someone so important in your life. Five years ago my son died, I still cry myself to sleep sometimes.

Forget what everyone says, people grieve in different ways and for different amounts of time. There will be good days and bad days but if you take them one at a time it is easier.

You might want to look into support groups Talking to people who went through and are going through the same thing helps. They understand what you are feeling and have a better sense of how to help you heal. www.Griefnet.org is a good place to start.

Give yourself a goal every morning and try to reach it before you go to bed that night. Such as (Think of 5 things you like about yourself or I will smile at a stranger today) I know it sounds a little strange but it helped me.

Spend time with friends and family. Even if they don't understand your feelings they want you to be happy. They can really help if you want to talk or just need a hug.

Do things or go places that you and your husband shared and think about how happy he would want you to be.

Fill your home with flowers and color, (again it sounds strange but it works)

The most important thing is to know that you will have good days and bad, but if you take them one day at a time and try to stay positive you will notice your pain and sadness will lessen over time.

Just remember on the bad days it's OK to cry.

Answer 2

First you need to accept his death. He's gone. Say your goodbyes. Then concentrate on the living. If you have children and/or grandchildren focus on them.

Give yourself some time--it doesn't happen overnight. My sister lost her husband of more than 40 years last year. It's tough--I know. But God chose you to go on and chose to take him.

If he died of an illness you can take comfort that his suffering has ended. Find hobbies, and do some reading (light reading.) Friends and family should be a big help.

You can also take a lot of comfort in the fact that many others, both men and women have lost spouses and have gone through exactly what you are going through. My mother, my grandfather on one side and my grandmother on the other side have all gone through the experience. My grandparents are all gone now, but each outlived his or her spouse by decades.

We DO go on. Cry when you need to and don't try to avoid the grief process. Then move forward. You can do it.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. I know it's difficult to loose someone that way. But people tend to only see the negative when something bad happened(your late husband)-they forget the good(the rest of your family, shelter, food....). All i can say is try your best to focus on the positive things. All the best.

Answer 4

You have been grieving for a time now. Plan a trip and get out of familiar and depressing surroundings. Make an effort before you end up mentally and spiritually broken beyond repair.Life is to be lived.

Answer 5

Honestly - you just have to allow yourself to be sad. It's only been a year so don't feel bad for feeling bad. And when you wake up one day and actually feel happy, let yourself feel it without guilt. Just dont confuse sadness with depression...I would hate for you to need therapy and not get it.
If you actually want an activity I would recommend yoga; specifically Kripalu. It's great exercise which release endorphins and makes you happy and it also helps you heal your heart. Helped me through my dad's death.
Peace.

Answer 6

completely understandable. my mother *mother of ten* lost her husband around a year an half ago which was my step father. things will always be hard adn there will always be times you R going to miss him more thN ever! being strong within yourself may be hard to endure but you must know that life goes on. you will be okay try to do things that keep you busy and happy. i noticed when my mother ggets down she writes down most missed memory adn she has my little sister * daughter of dude* lread them outloud. while she reads them she wants to cry but the memories themselves can onlt make her laugh. its a hard situation to overcome but as God as my witness everything is possible if you just try. try to be happy dont let them memories pass just because he did. When you wake up still tell him goodnight and you love him it may seem crazy but you;ll feel better and when you wake up just say alright honey todays a new day help me through it. he will initially be your light at the end of the tunnel. he will got you through your days and if he was still around you know he'd want you to be strong. so if you feel like you are un able to be strong for yourself be strong for him. Good Luck Babe

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you have kids try to give them more attention. Try to move on as much as you can. Try to smile everytime. Make yourself busy. Try joining a group or a club. Be active on your church

Answer 9

Do you belong to a church? Join a church group - hang out with friends. Talk to a counselor. Hope this helps

Sorry for your loss

Answer 10

please understand, death and separation are inevitable.. we come alone hence have to go alone.. people and relationships cross our paths but have to enentually move on.. find people who are facing greater losses and adversities and try to help them, it will definitely go a long way in making your life more meaningful.. seek refuge in god and the self through selfless service, prayers, meditation and contemplation.. god bless you..