i really fancied this lad when i was 15-20 years old he said at the time he really liked me but i was to young for him so i started dating another lad but when i was 21 i was out one night and ended up having a 1 night stand with the lad i really fancied he told my b/f at the time but i for some strange reason begged him to forgive me and he did i have seen this lad a few times while on a night out he never speaks to me but i still really like him i think about him everyday and last night i dreamt about him so this morning i cannot get him out of my head my problem is i now have 2 kids and i am still with the same partner i dont love him what should i do?
2007-02-14 18:55:40 · 9 answers · asked by kara19831983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he told my b/f so he would finish with me so we could be together and i think thats why he doesnt talk to me
2007-02-14 18:56:23 · update #1
my current partner i have tried to finish with many times, he is a bully when i ask him to leave he wont i am now 26, i have put up with so much he cheated on me 7 times, blacked my eyes twice so you can see why i dont love him anymore
2007-02-14 19:07:56 · update #2
What a tangled web we weave, when at first we practise to deceive!
yes you made a mistake but you are human and you have learnt and moved on from this... although he as taken you back (so to speak) you are still paying many years down the line! The only way people and he will start to treat you with respect is if you treat yourself with respect.... you deserve better and your children deserve better.. If you plan to leave this violent and destructive relationship DO IT for you and the children… not to go with another man… you need to sort your head out first.
This man you desire make himself clears ( in my eyes) that there was no love between you when you had you are one night stand… if he thought more about you he would have started a relationship then… wouldnt he?? However, The reason why you are thinking about this other man is because you are unhappy with your current partner and are yearning for exciting and stability. You have put this man on a pedestal and think he will rescue like a knight on shinning horse… sorry girl it would not work either…
The next time an incident happens, call the police they will get him out of the house. Is he a risk to the children? if so contact them now and explain you are worried about yours and the children safety they will help... is there no where u could go while you go down the legal root… you may just have to be firm and then tell him sorry your moving on and he is not going to be part of your life anymore. Not only will this give you a newfound confidence but also it will help with mental health and if he is sleeping around think of your sexual health!
yes it sounds easy but I did this after my ex husband used me for 22 years as a punch bag, had string of "lady friends", and gambled our house away... one day I decided I am better than this I am now in very happy relationship with a man I love a trust.....
Good luck chick
2007-02-14 19:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think very seriously about what you desire.
Think about your children and how it will affect them.
Would this other man want to take you and your children, why should he?
Are you prepared to leave your children with your husband to be with this man? Do you even know if the dream man wants you with him permanently?
I think you need to think very carefully about the consequences of your actions.
Keep thinking and then wait, then think some more.
Having said that it seems pointless staying with someone you don't love, and for you and the sake of the children I would leave him if he is violent. The children are going to be upset either way.
Don't use the dreams of the other man as an excuse to do so.
Do think about the affects of what you do will have on your children. It may be they are better offer if you left your husband or they may not - you need to do the right thing by them first.
Good wishes for all concerned
2007-02-15 03:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the first night with anyone always stands out in your memory.thats all youve got to go on on this guy.that raw passion fades in time.i dont think you want him as much as you think,you want some passion back,as do most people two kids later.the dreams are relating this and are not a message to go get that guy.imagine how your poor partner would feel if it went a full circle on him.apply that passion to him and fall in love all over again
2007-02-15 03:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for me the problem is not to be with the one u dream of but sorting ur life out as a start ...if ur partner is violent u should leave and fix ur life first without any man inside ...only after u can make a fresh new start
2007-02-15 03:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whish i could change things 4 u but thats the kind of life u chose so live it
By the way we all dream & we dont start planing things due to our dreams cuz we might just fool our selves.
2007-02-15 03:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you had a one night stand, means that karma is getting you back.
2007-02-15 03:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are currently experiencing sadness this dream may be an attempt to compensate and to comfort you.
2007-02-15 21:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your boyfriend has hit you, then I think you know the answer to this one yourself.
2007-02-15 03:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rachael H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let your conscience be your guide.
2007-02-15 03:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋