well im the youngest one in my family(i will be 18 in 2 months)..all my bros and siss are older than me ...my family especially mother call me (Cute)names like im 4yr child even infront of others sometimes and my gf...and shes allways worried when im out and keep calling checking if im ok...i feel like i cant be responsible for everything because the so sweet way they treat me i get everything i want and she even didnt want me get a job(i have a job)..what shall i do i just want them treat me my age im not a kid...
2007-02-14 18:50:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks grls for the answers...well i actually talked to them earlier about it..they treated me as i want for awhile then back again to baby me >_< ...i feel like a child honestly right now i dont want them care so much about me...
2007-02-14 19:00:33 · update #1
nothing much you can do! you cant change your family's feeling...esp your moms. I'm the youngest girl out of 4 brothers. I wasnt even able to go out until i was 17, even then i had to be home by 930. I'm 28 now and my mom calls me all the time. so u just have to get used to it. u can try talking to her about and ask her to back off some, but chances are that wont happen. so u just have to get used to it!!!
2007-02-14 18:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-03 12:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off know that your parents love you and that their motivations are based on that.
obviously you are feeling smothered...
sadly your probably not going to be able to change how they communicate with you.. your the "baby" of the family..
i am 37 and my mom still says things like "this is my baby" etc...
she talks about my accomplishments as if i were up for the nobel prize.
so appreciate the love for what it is.
that having been said. you can show them how mature you really are by doing what you are doing... you got yourself a job, handle that and all your other responsibilities like the young man/adult that you are.
The more they see their baby becoming a man, the more they will treat you like a man...
but... you'll always be their baby/little brother etc...
Hang in there..
2007-02-14 20:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by RainKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some choices. First, try talking with them. Call a family meeting and make your announcements. Talk to them individually and ask for their support. Write each of them a short letter explaining your position. Tell everybody you want all to go into family therapy. You consider personal therapy. OR, take hold of your own life and live it yourself and don't worry about what others do or say about you. Learn to love yourself, to truly honor and accept yourself without judgment. If you can truly love yourself and honor yourself, then you will not mind what others do or say about you. If you are comfortable with yourself, then others won't get under your skin. So live your own life, in spite of what others say or do. And, good luck.
2007-02-14 18:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, just keep doing what you need to do to grow into an adult.
What separates children from adults is one thing, children are continuously looking for approval, adults just get on with their lives.
Getting a Job is a great thing, it shows responsibility and that is an indicator of adulthood, taking responsibility for yourself.
One warning: Make sure that your job doesn't interfere with you finishing school with Above average marks.
Go that extra mile, it makes everyone else look like incompetent slackers. (LOL)
2007-02-14 20:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conversation-sit down with them and talk to them and explain your situation and how it makes you feel. You seem to be independent (which is a good thing) by getting a job. Be thankful that they love you so much, but explain to them that they need to cut the apron strings. Good luck.
2007-02-14 18:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by princeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. they just don't wanna 'lose' you... you can start by showin' them or talk with them seriously.. that you are a grown up person now. It just takes time, just keep on tryin' it might be hard at the first... ^_^ Don't hate it... you don't know how pathetic a person will be when there's no one care bout you... it just takes time..
Trust me, don't hate it... you gotta act like a real grown up person, not by hatin' it but... show it...
Gud luck..
^_^ SunshiNe
2007-02-14 19:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get use to it...
I'm 19 going on 20. I don't live with my mom, yet I have to check in with her before I go somewhere on the weekends...not only her. I have to let my older sister know as well, who lives provinces away! I wish they would stop seeing me as a baby. It drives me crazy as well. My mother calls me, her "Baby face love" Like wtf! When I figure out how to get em to stop..I'll let yah know. Until then, we must live through this BS.
-.-'
2007-02-14 18:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋