I mentioned earlier that I dated this girl for 2-3months who basically dumped me and went back to her Ex. It hurt me. I told her that and try to show that she I wanted to move on and I dont want anything to do with her. I admit I have feelings for her. My questions is that why is sending me Instant messengers, when I'm participate in some kind of activity, she always end up doing the same thing. What should I do? I mean the reason I engaged myself in these activities was to avoid her and have nothing to do with her. It just happens the more I try to avoid her, the more she seems to appear arround me. What the hell is this?
2007-02-14 18:25:20 · 15 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time you see her, be straight forward and ask her, "Why do insist on following me and doing all of the things I'm involved with?" If she can't provide a damn good reason (chances are she won't), then let her know in a calm manner that if her stalkish behavior doesn't stop soon, then you will go to the police and file a restraining order. Even if it's an idle threat, chances are she'll take the hint and back off.
But I am curious.... how is it that she knows everything you do and everything you're involved in? I mean, I'm married and I can't even tell you EVERY step my own husband takes, so for an ex-partner to know your every move sounds as if you indeed have a stalker. Another option to consider is to find out if indeed she is stalking you. If she continues to contact you, mention that you're going to go out to
2007-02-14 18:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love, and that's about the most miserable thing that exists. (Ask Romeo and Juliet) She's in love with you, why she's playing with your head, and probably of the other guy too.
But that doesn't mean you have to endure this misery. Either she comes clean soon, and comes with you, or DUMP HER. Ignore her completely and make efforts to forget her completely, or you will just suffer.
And don't worry - When it's your time to find the right girl, IT HAPPENS. NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. And true love isn't misery, it's BLISS.
If this is not BLISS, then it's not what you want to do the rest of your life, do you?
Some women are just like that, they like torturing men. I know, I've met and loved and suffered with them. If it's more than you can bear - There's a whole world of better ones out there, who would appreciate and respect and love a man like you and be very grateful to do so, too.
Beauty is much more than skin deep. Choose well, and don't let your **** do your choosing for you.
2007-02-15 02:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have zero contact with her, I don't think she is getting the message. That you still have feelings for her is understandable. Her feelings for you are an enigma, but also a royal pain in the ***. Is she trying to tell you that she made a mistake? Who knows? Your interest in the answer to that question is only a footnote in your life. Send her the message: "Lay off!"
2007-02-15 02:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey the only way to get out from this situation is try to indulge your self into some other work... and avoid those activity in which u think u can get in touch with tht person...
and focus on those friends & ur family... coz there love and affection is unconditional and they really care about you...
and about tht girl whom u get in touch with from last 2/3 months she just treating u as a backup option...
so ball is in ur court ..! wht u want from ur life..? u want to be a backup guy for this girl...? or a princes charming for ur dream girl ofcourse this girl is not ur dream girl...
2007-02-15 02:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Bharat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As mch as she is not your girl friend she still wants to be your friend.That is a very normal for people who were intimate to be friends.But this should only happen at end of the healing process.Open your heart to freindship cos at times that is the best option
2007-02-15 02:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants a backup, or enjoys being around someone who boosts her ego. Either way, I think you'd be better off ignoring her and finding yourself a new girlfriend who appreciates and respects you. You' re finding this whole occurrence weird because you still have feelings for her. If you didn't, you'd find it annoyingly irritating, even mildly insulting...
2007-02-15 02:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a girl likes you and you ignore her she trys to get your attention even more. so she obviously still has feelings for you. you can really hurt her feelings by being a complete *** to push her away or just give it some time.
2007-02-15 02:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by britt8smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants what she can't have. She likes the chase. She doesn't respect you. Find someone who will love you all the time.
2007-02-15 02:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by alareryu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how you feel so she could BACK OFF!!!! she probably likes the idea of havin someone still "want her." or she just misses your company. anyways if she did that to you, she doesn't deserve it. you guys could be cool but nothing more.
2007-02-15 02:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants her cake and eat it to. Ignore her and move on with your life. She is playing with your emotions.
2007-02-15 02:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by princeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋