My boyfriend's dad was in the army, and my guy commented recently on how he may join the Air Force when he gets out of college. He has all these dreams of being in the military even though he's asthmatic and blind in one eye. Although I've heard that Airmen have a less dangerous life than guys in the army, I still don't want to be with a military guy, especially if we have to move all the time or he gets sent overseas. At the time, I wanted to say, "You can do it without me." But I didn't because I didn't know if it would be wise to issue an ultimatum if he didn't even know he wanted to do it. Should I say anything about it the next time he brings it up, or broach the subject myself? I don't want to wait for him to graduate and be with me, only to have him decide he's going to join the Air Force and go God knows where. Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I worry at all? How do I deal with this?
2007-02-14 18:15:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, talk to him about it! Say " I always saw you being a more independent man rather than just following in your fathers' foot steps!" "Don't get me wrong I think military is an honorable profession, yet you seem more independently inspired than that!" Then bring up some of his passion in life, things he get passionate about.....elaborate on it!
It sounds to me like he just is not clear on what it is he really wants in life. Encourage him to express himself on his ideals and greatest dreams. Let him know that you support him 100% in his greatest dreams!
2007-02-14 18:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is joking with you. If his father was in the army, then he already knows about what chance he has in joining the army.
Let him join it, start calling him AirMarshal and start saluting him. This will grow your relationship and will bring the two of you together. Andwherever he will go, you probably will be with him.
2007-02-15 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by AnSID 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him try if he wants. Being blind in one eye, chances are he won't make it, but he can at least try. You have no right to tell him to stay with you. He has to live his own life.
2007-02-15 04:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him try to get in the AF.
If you like spending time with him now, then keep on until the feeling changes.
2007-02-14 18:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They won't let him join if he's asthmatic and blind in one eye...but regardless, if you love him, you should support him in whatever decisions he makes.
2007-02-14 18:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by himaintance75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marry him before he leaves so you can collect the pension benefits. the instructors will encourage him to marry as a morale thing while they're away so he'll be primed for it before he's assigned.
2007-02-14 18:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit with him and tell him what u r thinking.....mayeb this will solve ur problems or make him change his mind..............
2007-02-14 18:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by asad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋