Thing is the move bk. is so new, he's not yet enrolled in school, and ran away twice now. 1 time over night, this time 4 days'. Not sure if the police can/will do anything, only talked to him in the past...he's not scared. I'm lost and need some advice, anyone know where to turn???
2007-02-14 18:09:01 · 11 answers · asked by t m 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
This is going to be a lot of work on your part. It is really hard to give advice without knowing why he wasn' t with you before, how long he was away, where he is running to, etc. However, there are a lot of resources out there. I would start with the school, they have access to all resources in your location that can help you. Please don't hesitate, your son really needs you to be strong now, don't wait another day. Be prepared for a lot of rebellious language from him and attacks on you verbally because of your time away from each other. Your son is 15 on the verge of becoming an adult, he really needs your help NOW, I can't emphasize that enough, I don't mean to nag, but his entire life is proboblyl going to be based on what you do right now. (I am not a professional, just a mother). Again, please just call the school in the morning and you will be surprised at the support you will receive. Good luck to you and your son, I sincerely mean that.
2007-02-14 18:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by ginger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say where he was...I can see this is going to be a challenge.
Enroll him tomorrow and get him started.
Under these circumstances, you need to call the police EVERY time he does something illegal: curfew violation, drinking, drugs, anything.
Make sure the school is on top of his attendance and behavior also. Don't report him sick unless he has a fever or is in the hospital.
You can't control him by yourself because he's too big and he doesn't mind, so you have to involve the police. They are busy of course, so you have to be persistent. Explain your concerns to them. This is the best way to get him some help when he is out of control. It will take time.
Eventually, if he doesn't clean up his act, he will appear before a judge. There are a lot of things a judge can do: probation, house arrest, juvenile hall, therapeutic placement, etc. This will give you more leverage with your son.
Also, talk to the school counselor; s/he may be able to help too.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 02:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whew, Have a 15 year old son myself, he has never ran away though, thank god, he's threaten it but never accomplished the task, I would consider talking to him and finding out what is the matter that he is so unhappy. If you have health insurance, check to make sure he is not using any drugs, kids now days have so much problems with them, don't be scared to do this he needs help apparently somewhere, maybe a doctor can help or even a counselor at the doctors office. I hope that you get your son back to getting on track with his life soon, Good Luck. Maybe even call the police dept and ask them where to get help with these type of issues, he is running away for some reason, wether it is drugs, family issues, friends, or even just rebellion, there is an answer, your just going to have to dig deep. Wishing you the best.
2007-02-15 02:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Contact your local police department. At 15 they have the right to put out an Amber alert, so that all officers will be watching for him. Then I suggest you try to get in touch with your juvenile probation officer for your area. He or she may be able to help you.
The problem is that it is not law enforcement's responsibility to raise your child. I understand that you are worried about your son, and I am not trying to beat you up over his decisions, but he needs to be afraid of you if you're going to raise him and be in control of him. If he is 15, you need to be the one in control. If he is moving back and forth between families, he probably needs more stability in his life. He doesn't need a parent who will be kind and say the right things to him. He needs one who will stand up to him and demand respect. Find an officer who you can speak to, one who takes a personal interest in kids. You may find that someone who works in drug interdiction may be helpful, the ones I know seem to take a more personal point with kids. You may want to keep in mind that if your son is not already using some sort of chemical substance, be it drugs or alcohol, he is headed down a path which will quickly lead him into addiction. Do not be afraid to take a stand, it is for his own safety.
Good Luck
2007-02-15 03:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by picture . . . perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices. Boot camp for a year. It would set him straight. Ground him and no tv, phone nothing. He does chores around the house. He is not allowed to leave the house alone at all. Demand that he does what he is told to do. He washes dishes, sweeps and mops floors, does laundry, mows the yard, etc... Put your foot down and be the boos. Stop letting him be the boss. Don't let him go outside for anything. Otherwise he is headed for prison. Boot camp is the best bet though. Or military school. Make a respectable man out of him before it is too late.
2007-02-15 02:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by celticwarrior7758 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every time he runs away have him entered NCIC and when he returns have him taken out. Eventually the officers will tire of dealing with him and may advise you on what you can do further. every time he runs away and returns home, spank his butt, take privileges away, take games etc away. if he threatens to call the police because you spank him let him, but let him know you'll still be spanking him when they show up. big difference between discipline and abuse. also tell hi you have money for bail and to get out of jail. in other words step up and be a PARENT and don't expect the police to do it all.
2007-02-15 02:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by blueflash 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just do like all the other parents do....tell the police your tired of him running away and you can't handle him or any other lie you can come up with just to get rid of your child and have someone else deal with him. We deal with that everyday.
2007-02-16 00:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Zeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to involve your community's social services. Being a Delinquent Juvenile could get him into a program that might straighten him out. If you wait to long, all you will have is another young man in a prison cell.
2007-02-15 02:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Juvenile authority..
Needs to be placed in a controlled area under supervision and drug tested/physical ect.
2007-02-15 02:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO TAKE HIM TO GET SOME COUNCELING
SOUNDS LIKE HE REALY NEEDS IT
2007-02-15 14:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋