Hi I have a friend who is depressed because her father has emotionally abused her for the last 21 years; she has been called names of all sorts, and put down in the worse way possible while also been compared to people that have no meaning to her, ( EX. The father: Why can’t you lose the weight, study and work, Nicky Dose, and she’s a full time worker, and student. My friend: (she said nothing in fear that her father would say the following (Are you giving me an attitude) so while the father continues to insult her, she sits there and takes it! I need you help, what can be done about this, she has no job nor nowhere to go, she feels trap! any help is always welcome! thanks
2007-02-14 18:06:44 · 8 answers · asked by Max C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you put any help will do:
You need to help your friend self esteem , motivate her to keep focus on her things (like work, excersice and so forth). Sometimes parents can get very out of line by saying things they really inside regret..... For some reasing her father is pressuring her to achieve more things, but the father is not letting her know in a good way , but in a very hostile way.Power and control we all need, power of our life and control of our emotions.. Sometimes is very tough to try and understand why our parents pressure us to much.
Dude if you really care about your friend, you are the only one who really know her, keep always in touch with her.
Life sometimes is not of love, there is hate , there is anger, but there is always always hope.
This is a time for her to be independent and accomplish things she likes and what she wants, a full time worker can rent an apartment that can help this situation not to explode........
well this is a help answer, take care
2007-02-14 20:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time , past time for her to get out of that situation. She does not have to take it anymore. The hardest thing in the world for her to do but it must be done for her to have a healthy life. You say she has nowhere to go. No friends, no relatives? Noone to room with and or visit with till she gets on her feet? If you love your friend, you will aid her anyway possible to get free of her tyrannical father. If she is a full time worker, there is a way. It is fear and low self esteem and an utter disbelief in herself that is keeping her stuck there even though it is not a happy home. She needs to dig deep and find the courage to think through ways to get out and then GET OUT!
2007-02-14 18:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by WENDY S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is an adult, she will need to take steps to help herself. Being a full time student is hard work but maybe getting a job will help her to have more of a "room-mate" situation. That may be more ideal for her, so that way if she no longer wants contact with the abusive father-she no longer has to take it.
2007-02-14 18:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by selysammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a sad situation. My mom was like that as I was growing up.
Depending on her age she has options. Under 18 she can
possibley live with other family members, or see if the state can step in that is abuse. If over 18 move out and look for a job, she will need a friend who understands the situation and help.
Good luck
Morgaine
2007-02-14 18:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a "full-time" worker and student she may need to delay her education by going part-time to school and concentrating on working and getting her own place. She does not need to live in that situation. Try to talk to her about some options. Her father is an abuser and will not stop.
She is very lucky to have you to talk to. Please continue to be as supportive as you have been.
2007-02-14 20:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 16:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by bumbray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks being put down like that by someone who's supposed to Love you, and be there for you. Unfortunately, your friend is going to have to tough it out until she gets out of His house. She has to work, and save to get a place of her own; bottom line. I doubt her father is going to change anytime soon.
2007-02-14 18:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by sub_moa_shooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs empowerment.
Start by feeding her affirmations, but se wont get ahead until she leaves the environment where the abuse is comming from
2007-02-14 18:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Celia T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋