You and your significant other live in seperate cities. You used to live together and then they moved due to a job. Now they tell you they enjoy living two seperate lives and no one knows about you at their work and they would not take you to their work when you went to visit because they like it that way. They say they have no intention of being with anyone else, yet they enjoy having two different identities. Do you think this person has a problem? Thye call you their spouse and when you question them about it they say that "it is just not the conventional spouse." I'm so confused and hurt! I feel emotionally drained and saddened by this conversation. I guess I'd like to know, what would you do?
2007-02-14 17:51:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't stay with the person... she shouldn't have a problem with people knowing you're going out.. and you also have a say in this! Tell her what you're feeling and if she doesn't want to change, then leave.. it's not worth all the emotional strain and stress..
2007-02-14 17:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd move on because that is just messed up. It is hard enough to have a long distance relationship, but when the other person doesnt even want others to know about you I think there's some reason that they arent being honest with you about.
Here's the thing though...if your significant other is a man, then that's a little bit different. I personally work in a field that leaves me having to be careful about who I'm out to and who I'm not out to. It can be hard and it puts a strain on my relationship, but he has learned to deal with it. However, we live together and not in different cities....which makes a difference.
If you already have to deal with being apart, it is not fair to either of you that you also have to deal with the added pressure of a secret relationship.
2007-02-14 17:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Huh? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else is banging the hell outta her. Some women have self esteem issues and she might like the fact that you're always there to make her feel good about herself. That is not normal and she's walking all over you and testing you. If you're not legally married, you're not her spouse. She uses that word to keep you hanging on. Maybe you have hopes to one day be married to her. Sometimes love blinds people, but here's the truth. YOU ARE GETTING PLAYED. It seems like the only other people in the world you and her are in is only you and her. Good luck man.
2007-02-14 18:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is out looking for guy or she has one...or she might just be dating around because she wants to see what she might be missing if she sticks with you...i would suggest you start dating someone else
2007-02-14 17:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tel them what i really feel inside and if they did not listen then just move on with life coz seem like something is not just rt
2007-02-14 17:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by vakere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has someone else. go get someone else too.
2007-02-14 17:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by JZX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋