i still dream of having a little girl! i had my son a couple yrs ago and the whole time i was pregnet i always wanted a girl and to be real honest i was disappionted when they said it's a boy!i wasent eager to go buy boys clothes when all i dreamed of was cute little dresses,amd girly stuff!NOW DON'T GET ME WRONG!my son was born and i fell in love w/ him!but sometimes i see moms w/ there little girls and part of me is envious because i really want a daughter!i know that sounds horrible!!am i wrong?my hubby says all we will ever have is boys so im wasting my time wanting to ever try for a girl!!! does anyone out there know how i feel???does this make me a horrible mother????
2007-02-14 17:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think this makes your horrible at all. It is normal. I always wanted boys. I didn't think I'd ever want a daughter. My first two kids were boys. We thought we were done but then decided to have another. Suddenly I found myself wanting a girl. I was so sure it was going to be a girl. Then at my 20 week ultrasound they told me it was a boy. At first I was really disappointed. But then I got used to the idea of another boy and we named him. As my due date got closer I told my husband that if they made a mistake and it actually was a girl I was going to be upset because I had gotten used to the idea of a boy. He was born on the 6th of this month and I'm totally thrilled to have a third boy. For awhile, during the pregnancy, I did see moms with their little girls and feel jealous. Or I'd see clothes at the store and think that I was missing out because I'd never get to buy those little dresses and outfits. But I'm over it now. I'm just so happy with my little guy.
Just because you desire to have a daughter doesn't mean you love your son any less. Just don't tell him that you wished for a daughter. My mom loved to tell me all the time "I love you because you're my daughter but I always wanted boys." I heard it all the time while I was growing up and it has always made me feel like a failure. Right from birth I wasn't what she wanted. When I was pregnant with my second son she actually told me she was envious because she had always wanted all boys. Gee mom, thanks. I have a younger brother and they are really close.
No, you are not a horrible mother. You're human!
2007-02-15 00:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If you want a girl, then it's natural to dream of one. I have the most beautiful daughter but I want to have a son so I also know what it feels to long for that child you don't have yet. If you want to try for a girl then try for a girl...sounds like your husband doesn't want another child. You should discuss that issue first and then decide whether or not you want to take the chance of having another boy. I certainly would never think of it as a waste of time though. If you decide not to take the risk & still want a girl...adopt! There are several children out there born to mothers who can not or will not take care of them. What would be wrong with giving one of them a loving & nurturing home??
2007-02-14 18:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by avaadore82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are experiencing what every mother does - the girls have cuter clothes and when they are older, you have a shopping buddy. I have one of each and they are each unique in their own way. My son who is 3, is my little cuddle bug. He is more affectionate than my daughter, who is 5, ever was. Just enjoy what you have and you will be rewarded - perhaps with a daughter. I had no preference but when I was pregnant with my second I was torn between wanting a boy or wanting another daughter so my daughter would have a playmate. it is very normal. And hey, I came from a family of 4 girls and my husband came from a family of all boys - anything can happen.
2007-02-14 17:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by dj_jonesd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LoL im kinda going threw the same thing!!! im pregnant with my first and im having a boy! and i keep on having dreams of me having a daughter!! the other day i went for sonogram..to see the length of my cervix..and i ask the tech..if they can check to make sure its still a boy!! and it is!!
you are not a horrible mother..by having a dream that you had a girl! doesnt mean you love your boy any less!! maybe you and the husband should try starting soon to have another baby! only if you guys are ready of course! and it might be your dream to have a girl!
and of course alot of females want a baby girl! to dress them in cute outfits! do their hair! and makeup when they get a lil older! see them walk around in your heels! thats every womens dream! and you can make that dream happen if you want it!
2007-02-14 18:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not horrible at all! At least your heart is honest with itself, and you're allowing yourself to acknowledge your dreams for a girl. :) As long as you love your little boy and are a good mother to him, and as long as your wish for a girl doesn't become an "obsession", then I say there's nothing wrong here! Everyone is entitled to their secret (or not-so-secret) wishes. For what it's worth, if I decide to have kids (which I probably won't, for various reasons), I would prefer a GIRL also. :)
BTW, your husband's comment sounds very thoughtless to me. I don't like making negative comments about someone I don't know, but how could he say something so rude and uncaring of your feelings? "All we'll ever have is boys!" -- and he knows this HOW? Is he God? He can't predict the gender of your future children, and neither can you. So for him to make that comment, especially in light of your girl wishes, is very thoughtless. :(
2007-02-14 17:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by scary shari 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm 20 weeks and had desires about having a lady the entire time except for a million dream that it replaced right into a boy. each and every of the better halves memories stated it really is a lady, all and sundry at the same time with me idea it replaced right into a lady to boot. seems, in accordance to my test very last week it really is a boy! So for me, i wager it did not instruct that way. sturdy success!
2016-11-03 12:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn"t make you a horrible mother. But don't tell your son this because it could lead to a fight or make him feel unwanted and cause him to do bad things when he gets older. Just keep trying a pray for a girl this next time.
2007-02-14 17:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by karrahbissett11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you mean. I am mum to 3 boys who I love dearly but I would still love a gorgeous little girl, but that wasn't to be for me so I'm just waiting for all my granddaughters. My oldest is only 12 so I have quite a wait. Little boys are such mummy's boys and I love that.
2007-02-14 23:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart wants what it wants but I just wanted to say that I am a girl and my mom always wanted a boy, she finally got one after having me and my sister and she loved him so much more than she did us. It hurt deeply and it still does. So, I'm sure you would never do this but just in case...if you do get your girl make sure that you don't favor her over your boy...even just a little bit hurts.
2007-02-14 18:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! Your husband got what he wanted, a little him, a son. So whats wrong with wanting a daughter? I want a daughter so bad and I find out the gender Monday. Its NOT wrong to want a girl :) I feel u
2007-02-14 17:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by ~∂Їβ~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋