I have these two men. They both love me dearly, and I love them back, the same. They love eachother, so its a rather odd situation. Do you think this will work? I mean.. loving two, two loving you, and echother? Theres no jealousy, never has been between the three of us.
2007-02-14 17:24:44 · 28 answers · asked by BunnyN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me explain in detail to those who ask:
There are three of us, two males and myself. Not once have we had any jealousy issues, and yes it is a sexual relationship between the three. We do many things together, go on dates and the like. I wouldn't choose one or the other over them. Yes they know how the other feels - we are around eachother all day but when at work, and even then constant chit-chat through emails and telephone calls. I have never been as happy and neither have they. While it is very untraditional, and very different then any other relationship I have seen I wouldn't give it up for the world.
2007-02-15 11:31:38 · update #1
Of course you can! I think you guys have found what sound like the first true love in history.
You see, in most relationships, jealousy is stemmed from the fact that one person sees the other person as an object, and sees himself/herself as the owner of that person. Therefore he/she can't stand anyone else "owning" that person, even if that'd make the person happy,
If you guys can "share" eachother, so as to speak, it means you are secure about yourselves and about your partners, and that your truly respect eachother.
I'm not saying you will never have to face conflicts; you probably will, especially because society does not seem "threesomes" as morally acceptable. But I think relatively speaking, you would actually be much better at overcoming problems like mistrust.
Congrats for finding these two men. I envy you, I really do. And I think everyone else does as well, which is why they're all criticizing you and telling you it won't work. They're jealous.
2007-02-14 17:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by its just me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eventually, sometime down the line.. You will want a marriage and a family. Now if/when you get pregnant, that will be the end of your wonderland happiness. Men can only tolerate two spoons in the soup for a limited amount of time.. One will drift away or there will be a confrontation.. I am wondering if one or both of them are just using you. Are you all living together? Going on group dates? What do you mean by have.. have sex with? have married one? live with both? go out together? If you are just being used by two men for booty calls.. then they HAVE you .. not the other way around.. Think about it.. I hope you are bettering yourself and not just hanging around for crumbs of compliments from these guys or waiting to see who shows up in the middle of the night. Just for curiosity, which one would you choose to spend the rest of your life with if you had to pick one?
2007-02-15 01:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are, by nature, competitive and territorial. If I were one of the men I would rather have you 100% or not at all rather than halfway. If you ever want to marry and have a family, you will have to choose one or the other.
Look on the bright side, you are in a better position than having nobody that loves you. If you choose one man over the other, then his love for you will fill your heart and you won't need anyone else.
2007-02-15 01:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it can. as long as every one remains open and honest and there are no co-dependency issues involved. i have know couples or what ever who have had very successful relationships just like yours. My Girlfriend and i are swingers and that works very well for us, so why couldnt your current situation. every one is getting something out of it from every one else involved, then really what is the problem. many people will tell you that your a deviant or what have you but its only because they do not understand. i do not know if this is the best forum for asking this question because i think many of the people on here will not understand and judge you for your behavior. i applaud you for understanding who yo are and being ok with it. and for finding people like you to share your life with. many people never find love in there whole life, so i say you three should hold onto your love and anyone who says it is wrong F@$# EM! its your life not theirs.
2007-02-15 01:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a unique situation, but i have heard of this happening with others.
Are the two aware of the others connection with you? If so and they are ok with it, it could be possible something could work out as long as you don't seek to marry one or the other.
Are you sure they are not just hiding their jealousy? If the situation escalates you will have to make a choice to pick which one you want to be with. In order to do this don't make it so much of a concious decision but see which one you have a greater connection with or have more fun with. If you do this it should come to you naturally of which one you should stick with. Trying to make a concious decision will only make you more confused and mixed up to which one you should pick.
Hope this helped out.
2007-02-15 01:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by elitedepthcharge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say love each other, do you mean in a brotherly way, or a relation-ship way?
Either way, it's difficult to have two loves, or be in any situation like that. Ask my friend. He has that problem. He's bi, and has a boy and a girl who like him, and that boy and girl dated at one time. There's alot of jealousy between all of them. But maybe it's just them.
2007-02-15 01:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fooling yourself. As well as one of those Guys. Love is from the Heart. Your Heart only has room for one. Real Love can only be for One. You love the attention of two? You like the Emotions of two? You like spending time with two. But you don't "love" two Guys. Would you wanna share your Guy, with another Lady? I thought not!
2007-02-15 01:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may work at first, but there will always be the playing a favorites, especially when attitudes and personalities get in the way later.
2007-02-15 01:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by cop350zx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do not commit yourself to either of them and enjoy the ride my dear. Strange to me, but does sound fun, you could make it work for a while. You may need a commitment later in life but for now if you are happy go for it and have fun. Just be careful of STD's.
2007-02-15 01:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be affraid of an unseen
Have fun till a problem arises and then ask a way out of that particular problem.
2007-02-15 02:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋