My boyfriend is 27 and I'm 19. We have been together three years. We started living together almost two years ago. Since we moved in together, our sex life has went out the window. I try to iniciate sex all the time, but he just pushes me away. I try to talk to him about it and explain to him how I feel, but he just blows it off and won't discuss it with me. I'm worried that it's going to be like this for the rest of our lives. I've tried spicing things up, but nothing works. He used to be all over me. We could have sex two or three times a day, and now sex more than once or twice a week is rare, let alone more than once in one day. Will he ever get his drive back that he had when we first started having sex?
2007-02-14 17:16:22 · 11 answers · asked by super_kick_chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I try to get him in the mood, he starts whining and says "not right now" or "i don't feel like it" or even "i'm too tired right now"
2007-02-14 17:24:24 · update #1
This is obviously a problem in your relationship you have to overcome if you are to be together. Waiting for it to go away won't help a bit. You have to get him to open up and explore, if he doesn't already know, why he feels like he feels and show kindness and understanding. But you also need to explain to him that if he's unwilling to talk it over with you then he risks losing you - not because of the low sex drive but because of the lack of communication between you. There could be any number of reasons for him, ranging from stress to loss of interest. Almost all of them are treatable. Point is you have to work it out and not let it linger. I for one once broke up because, within other reasons, found that we were incompatible in our sex drives, frequency wise, but I did make sure it was the person like that and not the circumstances...Best of luck!
2007-02-14 17:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long is he been reacting like this, if its 2 months or so, u can give him some space, but if its like more than 6 months, than there is aproblem may b u can stop touching and all, and one suddenly just stand in ur bday suit, or just think of such idea, but i guess giving a good break is important, is he otherwise normal, he talks bout his notmal daily life, or he has stopped that too, all the best
2007-02-15 01:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's turned gay...not that there's anything wrong with that! No, seriously, most relationships work that way. Hot and heavy at first, then cool off quite a bit. I would however be concerned that he won't even discuss it with you.
2007-02-15 01:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by himaintance75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't like you anymore, mebe you let yourself go? or more likely he is cheating on you with a 16 year old, he was a pedifile when you met and now ur too old!!!
2007-02-15 01:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by tony g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and get some ohter guy who really want to have sex.
it's better for u and ur health.if ur boyfriend get angry,say to him this is ur mistakes........yes this is his mistakes.he made u desperate right?so what r u waiting for......go and get some great sex......enjoy
2007-02-15 01:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by mamin_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stop trying to have sex w/ him and just please yourself......he gonna wanna a ride soon. or maybe hes gay and doesnt want to come out yet.
2007-02-15 01:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by declaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore, or he's cheating on you.
2007-02-15 01:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by samuel s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whys he is doing this ?
maybe he is getting old.
lol
always have hope
xx
2007-02-15 01:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
viagra
2007-02-15 01:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by knox_mountain_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone new, maybe you will get bigger and better
2007-02-15 01:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by smjohnson55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋