Today, my friends told me they saw my bf cheating on me. But when i talked to him, he denied it and said it had merely been a kiss on the cheek between friends. I believe my boyfriend, but why would my friends lie to me? They're always watching out for me, especially when it comes to guys. Not to mention, I'v just been hurt one too many times by my bf and it gets harder to trust him each time. I really care about him, but i don't know how to deal with this situation. what do you think i should do?
2007-02-14 16:55:10 · 9 answers · asked by pbc132 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long have you been together? Does he think you are a couple as much as you think you are a couple?
Trust is a choice. You choose to believe in him, or you don't. I would say, give him the benefit of the doubt. Your friends may not be lying, they may just be mistaken about what they saw. My friends thought my (now) fiance was a player, and warned me about him. That's what they saw, but time has proven they were mistaken. Thank your friends, and because of them, keep your eyes open. But, choose to believe your boyfriend. Your belief will strengthen his faithfulness.
By the way...I'm 700 miles away from my fiance. I'm planning an outing with another man from work...completely harmless. I've had men hit on me, ask me out, and flirt with me, and none of it meant anything to me because I chose not to allow it to mean anything to me. I have other male friends I hug and kiss (cheek) because they are close friends and I love them dearly...but I have chosen to give my closest, most intimate love to my fiance. This is not cheating on him because I have taken nothing away from him to give to them, and I am not short-changing him. I am able to love him more because I can love them as friends. It is possible, and if you can learn the different kinds of love, you will be able to trust more.
2007-02-14 17:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie you can be in love but u dont have to be dumb (dont take it to harshley) but dont allow yourself to get hurt again if u have feelings for him ok... thats cool but go out and get you a couple of freinds (as in guy friends, close guy friends) you and your bf arent married all u have together are feelings. so please do me the favor of gettin you some side friends and let his friends catch u giving some guy a kiss on the cheek mmkay and then let me know how you feel over th whole ordea. because not onliy will u have new friends but u will also have a back up plan just incase u and your bf break up.
2007-02-14 17:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been hurt before, why do you believe him over your friends. Do you really think that he will stand, look you in the eye, and tell the truth? If your friends look out for you, why would they make something like that up. If he has hurt you alot, like you say, why are you still in the relationship? Girl, life is short. Find someone that will love you the way you deserve to be loved and do not waste your time on a relationship that you are unsure of. Take it from someone that knows, there are wonderful men out there waiting for someone like you to love.
2007-02-14 17:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by ND M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are as nice as you say, then they have no reason to lie. By "cheating" what do you refer to? Did they explain? Maybe they did see the cheek kiss, and yes that seems like cheating. Overall, they are trying to watch out for you. So tell your friends that next time that they see this, to take a pic of it, and with that you can confront him, or he will continue to do this to you.
P.s=If he is cheating, drop him,,,
2007-02-14 17:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him, you just said you've already been hurt one too many times by him...........I'd believe your FRIENDS and get rid of his cheating a**.
After all, in a committed relationship, how often do YOU kiss friends of the opposite sex "on the cheek"? ESPECIALLY if you don't know who this girl is............ why wouldn't you know her if she is his friend?
Don't play dumb, honey. It's going to hurt but you're being played and need to move on.
2007-02-14 17:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Avon Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not about what other are saying, is about how you feel about
what is going on. you stated that he has hurt you before and that
you dont trust him then let you know what to do, if you dont trust
him then there not much of a relationship.
2007-02-14 17:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-14 17:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are guys.... most are willing to do whatever to not lose the girl they're with.... even if that means lying to her....guys are pigs....
2007-02-14 17:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by desertsurfer2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunt trust him
2007-02-14 17:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by storage b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋