My grandma died two weeks ago. I spent a lot of time with her. She's one of my closet relatives, she always tells me how smart and strong I am. I was her closet grandchild. The day she died I got an email saying my life was going to change that day. I checked that email 30 minutes before she died. When I was at her house the phone rang, and I picked it up. At first no one was there, but then I heard an eerie voice say "it's grandma" and the line went dead. I thought it was a prank call. Then the next time it rang my dad answered and nobody was there. Then when I answered again the same thing happened with the eerie voice. After that I started crying. I've started having nightmares with her in them. I can hear her voice. I feel crazy. I don't know what to do. I don't want to feel crazy!!!! Am I just imagining these things?
2007-02-14 16:45:17 · 16 answers · asked by penlight2 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
What do you believe? I personally believe in life after death- another better place spirits go to-- if you believe in this, then you can believe that your grandma was bringing you a message after her death-but I don't understand the nightmares-- are they really bad dreams or just nice dreams about you and your grandma? You are very young and you need help with dealing with the stress of her death-- and sometimes your "mind" plays games with you--- you should talk to your mom, or sister or aunt, whoever you feel comfortable in confiding in about this---and you should also consider speaking with a counselor- a free clinic for mental health--- and don't please take offense at that but everyone needs help with stress in their life and losing your grandma was a lot for you--- Check out mental health counseling in your area in the phone book-- you may be able to talk to someone on the phone or meet with them---it will really make you feel better, honest---you will have a hard time moving forward with your life until you get over this loss.....best of luck to you, I hope everything works out for you, and I'm so sorry for your loss, try to remember all the good times you did have with your grandma, it may also help you get peace.
2007-02-14 16:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I'm terrably sorry about your grandmother. Secondly there is one of two things happening here sweetheart.
1 - Some knows you very well, knows who you are and what has happend and is playing a terrable prank on you. Highly likely due to the fact that when your dad answered the phone, no one was there, which implies they were waiting for you to answer.
2 - you could be imagining, yes. Look into the five steps of greiving on-line, very educational and worth your time. You need closure and time to mourn , do not bottle your emotions. . . and YOUR NOT crazy. You must have been very close with your grandmother and seeing her pass on is troubleing I know. Keep in mind she is past the suffering now and in a much better place. Maybe someday you will be as great of a grandmother as she was to you.
~ Christopher
EMT - Paramedic
2007-02-14 16:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by christopher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are going through a hardship, believe me I understand but do not know you situation. Hardship is loss of someone so precious to us and then we tell people or friends and they get tired of hearing us. Loss is something you and I may know important to get through others may not feel that way. If you have a person who cares and is possessive or you broke off with sometimes they take advantage and play you like you are a deck of cards. Remember she was an angel, and the real world will play you also. Don't think you are going crazy, know you are stand up plead the blood of Jesus and go upon you day, you will find what is happening it is not unusual. You are strong enough to know you pain is someones else gain.
2007-02-14 16:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Firedogfire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were very close to your Grandmother and she to you, so what you are experiencing is not unusual. Although I am concerned that you are having nightmares. Could this be because of your fear of the unknown. I don't know what your religious belief is, or if you have one. If you do, I urge you to talk to your Pastor or church official. They can share solid scripture with you that will calm your fears and eliminate the dreams. Also, think of wonderful times and conversations you had with your Grandmother. There must be so many of them to cherish. I believe that your beloved Grandmother is closer than you think ... and I know she is never more than a thought away. Smile when you think of her ... after all, she loved you and believed in you. She would want you to be strong. What a wonderful grandmother you had. You were truly blessed!
2007-02-14 16:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by daffodil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably not. i thought heard my brother on the cell phone as i was making calls for about 2 wks after he died. we were all we had. im the oldest, he was the youngest.
we lost our grandma that was close when i was about 15y/o. she was my as close to mom as you could get the first few years of my life.
i guess, since im still having issues about my brother and just lost another close Friend today, all i can tell you, keep talking to those that will listen without judgment. dont think youll ever forget, do something positive, volunteer.
understand your limits. do anything you can that makes a positive difference.
helping children in need in my area has helped me. i just try to do things i think would make my brother/grandma proud.
i even enrolled in college(im 35).
i hope i have helped
2007-02-14 17:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by bearfox_traders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. Its normale to be sad to you Grand ma that was always close. Everything will be ok. You have to cry and scream and beat your pellow. I lost my mother 6 years ago from a car accident becouse a drunk driver had hit her car. I in ways feel your sorrow exsept you lost grandma.
2007-02-14 17:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by tag_along37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hullo
my condolence for your loss.
you have what is called the grief reaction,it is a state of temporary sadness which may have some bizzare phenomena like what had happened to you ,if you love someone so deep then you may not believe in his death in the first time,a sort of denial you may say.
it will resolve by time,as it is the best remedy,but there is no harm if you consult a therapist,it will do you good.
dr solo
2007-02-14 16:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by baghdadcatcash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I don't have an answer for you but just want to say I'm sorry for your loss. Losing someone is always tough, I lost my brother a while back and i always expected to grow old together but I believe in God and Heaven and I just put my faith in God and I know that my brother is in a wonderful place. Good luck to you and keep your head up.
2007-02-14 16:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jody C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they aren't all your imagination. But if you loved your Grandma, why would you fear her? That's what gets me, my brother died, and I heard and saw him everywhere for a while, but I wasn't scared. It just goes away after a while, and its not all that crazy, its part of the grieving process.
2007-02-14 16:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God constantly jointly as attempting, as God helps people who help themselves somewhat than people who're lazy. Lord Krisna reported in Bhagavad Gita, we would desire to accomplish our works and resign the fruit of our action. So we ought to save attempting and locate pleasure in doing our artwork, no remember if or no longer we get the needed effect. we ought to constantly no longer lose desire. Do your maximum suitable and circulate away something to God,it is going to all come suitable some day or evening.
2016-12-17 16:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by bumbray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋