Cheating and careless girlfriend. What do I do? I only want to be happy.?

Question

I was dating this girl for about 5 months and she has cheated on me twice now,and maybe even more for all I know.But, after the second time I found out,I said "thats it, were over" knowing good and well I still had tremendous feelings for her.We then got back together on and off from there for about two weeks,and technically,she didnt cheat on me, she just continued to keep away the truth and lie.But when she finally did tell me the truth, we broke up, and have stayed so. Well, currently,I have found out about a lot of stuff she has done with other guys since we have broken up...and I know that its not considered cheating, but, if she can move on that quick, why can't I? Why do I keep telling myself there is a chance for her to change? What is the right thing to do for myself? I feel...like I have no idea what to do. It really is not a fun feeling. What about talking to her? Would that be ok?Please,this is a first love case for me...and I can't beleive it had to turn out like...this

I would love to thank everyone for their help with this. I cannot tell you how much this means to me, I know that I still have feelings for this girl, but now, I can see a future. And its very happy. Thank you all very much, I believe I could not have done this without you. Thanks.

Answer 1

DONT TALK TO HER!
There is nothing more to say to her. You are looking for excuses to startup contact with her again. I think that you are still in love with this girl, which is sadly very common, once you are seeing the betrayed end of a relationship.

She moved on, very quickly, because she was already over you. Once betrayed, everything is just ripped apart inside ones chest, and its a mess to get hold off.

My advice beyond - DONT CONTACT HER - is that you give yourself time to mend and heal.
Nothing in the physical world will heal you faster, EXCEPT falling in love again, and it has to be for real. Please be aware that rushing into other relationships, might mess you up even more, because you will not only have to deal with the betrayal, but also with some mixed up feelings of guilt - towards a person you owe no such feelings.

STAY AWAY - AND TAKE YOUR TIME TO GRIEF.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear what has happened to you. It just plain sucks to get crapped on by someone we care deeply for.

But I think this girl has shown she is either right now not ready for a relationship, or that she will always be a cheater.

I know how hard it is to move one from someone. But I think if you keep getting back with this girl, she will continue to do the same thing over and over again.

I know its hard to move on, some people just do so faster than others. But there are so many other wonderful people out there who wont cheat on you. Dont you deserve that. YES, I think we all deserve that. Dont let her take you love from you and give you nothing but hurt in return.

Answer 3

You know this is not the girl for you. First love is always the toughest. It's time to just forget about her and move on. Find something new at school to get involved with. Take stock of yourself and start dressing nicer, maybe. Hang out with some really great people who will keep you on your toes as far as interests go. Keep open to all kinds of things in the world you have never tried. Believe me, you can do it.

Answer 4

U must never try to change a person, your girl, it never works. U must accept the person as it is, or forget it. There is no point talking or preaching to her, she will begin to despise u. This 'holier than thou' attitude only leads to damnation. If u feel u are too good for her, find someone else, whom u feel equal. In love u should always feel equal, not better or superior, than there is no love, only domination from your side. It is your first love so be careful, and don't blame her that things have turned out the way it has, u are equally or more to blame.

Answer 5

in my opinion she would not change( maybe later in her age i'd assume she's really young now, later in her late 20's she might would want to settle down for one guy), anyways she cheated on you a few times, flearting w/other guys that because she did not carre much about relationship or you, she did not take you seriously. My friend she still with her bfr but she sleeps w/other guys or goes out, she dont carre abt her boyfr. and she also does it because she says she might meet some1 better. So i'd assume ur girlfriend thinks and feels like my friend. I think you should move on. Its the 1st love, right, yeee it would be hard to move on, it would take time, but you should ask yourself questions, do you wanna be w/her when she make you feel unhappy like that or misarbale, disrespect u like that(sleeping w/other guys?) if u wanna be w/her ask yoourself a question" if u would be ok w/the fact she sleeps w/other guys while she is with you?, Did she deserve you? would u better off her (single) than w/her and unhappy? If she cheated on you that because a girl does not love or does not have feeling abt u. ok back to topic how to move on? take your mind off it, example take a trip somewhere(im not talking abt going to Paris, no) i mean trip like skying or snowbaording (if u're in Ny) or camping, or Fl. Or go out w/ur friends, have guys night out.

Answer 6

Look, I know this is hard for a first relationship, or whatever it is. Just hope you wore protection. Forget her. she's not worth it. I had that happen too. I was crushed, but I got over it. It took time. She's not worth it. I found someone more wonderful and you will too. Hang in there.

Answer 7

get rid of the broad..... that means dont take her back and if your sensible you wouldnt bang her anymore either, cuz she might have contracted something from one of her escapades. you sound like the typical "first love" guy.... like a wussy, dont sweat her cuz when you find someone else you will realize how much she wasted your time.....but DO NOT take her back for any reason.....even if she said she has changed or whatever BS she wants to give you........ once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 8

You need to face reality....this girl....is not "serious" with you..or anyone.. I mean..she needs to keep her pants on..but honestly..don't lose much sleep over her. It's hard..yes I know..but...in reality..how can you make it work of she isn't willing to be honest...You have to realize that..HONESTY is the main thing in a relationship..

...besides....there are 293473458475349584589475 ppl in the world....you'll find real happiness.

- Good luck

Answer 9

if you love let it go if it comes back then it was meant to be , in the mean time don't sweat it. Move on with your life , i am pretty sure your still young

Answer 10

SIMPLE FIND A NEW ONE
THAT S IT
MAN YOU COULD GET THE SIMPLE THING