im muslim, he is catholic. we are like, best of friends. we have so much fun together. all he does is tell me though "i really need a g/f" and it makes me sad...he will only go with a catholic girl. but i can't forget about him. and he knows i like him, i've told him many times. everybody at school thinks we're together, but...it's so hard on me. i can't like anybody else..i only like him. what should i do? its been this way for almost two years. THANKS!
2007-02-14 16:22:06 · 16 answers · asked by sk8rgirl734 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, seriously, wow to all these replies. thanks so much.
i think i like him so much, becuase he is like me. we are both pretty decent people, we don't do any of the stuff that so many people mess up their lives with. we are both religious, and we both love to laugh. when i am with him, it's like, everything is okay. we are in our second year of college, actually, and everybody at the (community) college thinks he loves me. today for valentines day they were handing out roses, and when i was carrying my red rose around THREE people asked me if he gave it to me. i know i should move on, and i'm trying...it's just...we keep finding our way back to each other. it is really hard. thanks all you guys for all the supportive comments. :-)
2007-02-14 16:47:13 · update #1
The way I see it you have two choices...
1) find a new crush
or
2) ditch your religion
It could go either way, but make sure you're making these choices for you and not for some guy!
2007-02-14 16:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Religious beliefs can come in between two people unfortunately. But unless you're willing to convert to Christianity and change your life for him (I'm sure your parents would LOVE that) maybe you should try to just have your mind made up that you need to meet someone new. Perhaps the problem is that you haven't found anyone you like as much. I bet if you did, you'd feel different about the situation. Or ask yourself this, if you don't have a problem dating a Catholic boy, why should he have a problem dating a Muslim girl? Maybe he's using religion as an excuse to avoid getting involved with you and just prefers to stay friends.
2007-02-14 16:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant help you, but if its any consolation i have the same problem :| the only difference is were both catholic and weve been best friends for only like the last 5 or 6 years. same situation everyone thinks were together and if you tell ur friends ur not together they think ur lying... He may be a good friends but is he really worth mooning over seeing as how u know u cant have him? I gave up on my best friend a while ago. though were still best friends, i dont think we'll ever have any other kind of relationship. Maybe u should try to find another guy...
2007-02-14 16:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Muslim too! look, enjoy your time with him, lot of people don't even get that chance to have fun with the person they like or love ! Most important, some are made to be friends, don't forget that. I know it's hard, but that's how it's work. You can't force some one in fallen in love with you. So, just enjoy your time with him and give him all the time he needs, who knows, you guys may end up together. One thing iv seen in my own experience that, when you express your feeling to some one, specially when friends at first, things turn out strange, and what i mean is, that person start taking advantage of the situation and start playing games, because he/she, now knows that, they have an upper hand. I'm not implying, he is, but bear this in mind and if i were you, i wouldn't show my sincere feelings to him any more, just true friend and buddy. May be you experience new stuff. I'm just being honest with you. GOOD LUCK..
2007-02-14 16:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he really sounds like a devout Catholic and because of his religous convictions it would seem you haven't got a chance. Sorry luv, just an observation. Besides that though, have you ever considered that maybe he want's to preserve your friendship and doesn't want to mess that up by dating you? That could be a fair assumption too. Just be happy that he's in your life; better a friend than a stranger. And don't worry, one day soon perhaps, another chap might come in to your life that will yield to your charms. You never know, so keep your chin up. 8)
2007-02-14 16:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he will only go out with a catholic girl, maybe this is an excuse not to take things further with you. Try and get another boyfriend and see how he reacts, he might realise you're the love of his life and change his foolish ways!
2007-02-14 16:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ari J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no rely what you assert to this guy, he's already instructed you prematurely what he needs. i visit allow you to be conscious of from own adventure, that there is greater to you than intercourse, will fall on deaf ears. he's in simple terms providing you with the potential of perhaps relationship afterwards as a bait and turn to get what he needs. He of course is super-unfold with you're a virgin and has no qualms approximately treating you decrease than your own time-honored/fee. quite some men like that exist yet there are a number of fellows who are not and those are those which will fee you for who you're and not via fact they elect to have intercourse with you. I say "walk Away" from this guy. he's no longer worth some time.
2016-12-17 10:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relgion is strange. If your both still at school, then his religion is probably something he's been conditioned in to via his parents... and so feels he has to conform to their standards (eg marry a nice Catholic girl). Its not fair on children to brainwash them with religion.
Anway, hopefully his eyes will soon open, and he may come to the realisation he doesn't have to conform to other's religious standards or expectations.
2007-02-14 16:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Bloggs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh that is harsh, and im sure youve tried so hard to show him. you really need to do something drastic, so him how good he can feel with you, like an emotional high. Find a way to show him that if its ok to have a muslim gal pal then why not a muslim girlfriend.
2007-02-14 16:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by aomeneesan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when he says, I need a g/f, you should say, I need a b/f. It just seems cruel for him to say that to you, esp when he knows how you feel about him. But maybe he's trying to be as clear as he can--if he wanted to date you, he would. If you're not his g/f now, you probably never will be. Maybe you should spend less time together and try meeting other guys. Stop torturing yourself. You've done all you could, he knows how you feel.
2007-02-14 16:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by tiger lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋