Me and this guy had really short thing. He wasn't doing drugs when i meet him he and he knew how i don't want drugs around me. then he asked me out and we didn't have sex so i realy don't think he was using me. well after he asked me out not long after he said that he cares about me so much and doesn't want to put me through any more than i have already been through so he broke up with me. He told me that if he went out with me he wanted to do things right and he needs some time to straighten out his life. he told me that i am not the kinda girl he just wants to be with for a couple of months and then break up he would want to spend the rest of his life with me. but now he hardly calls me. he doesn't really talk on the phone all that much to anyone but we hang out every one and a while.everytime i see him he does gives me that hug were he pulls me real close by the lower back and acts nervous around me but he doesn't say anything about getting back together. what should i do?
2007-02-14 15:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by blackglitter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be cautious.don't get involved with him again,if you're not sure how he feels.tell him how you feel.that you love him and you want to be with him.but you don't wanna get hurt again.if he really loves you,he needs to prove himself to you.if he's still taking drugs,be aware of how he treats you.if he's still using,he'll end up hurting you.but if he's clean,and he really loves you,he needs to prove himself to you.that's not fair to you,if you have to keep guessing about how he truly feels.you deserve to know where you two stand with each other.
2007-02-14 15:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Miss yavatar girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is take what he said for what it is and not think about it too much. Realize that you are young and are going to meet a lot of guys and don't need to waste too much energy on this one. You don't need to be put on this rollercoaster anyway. There are two options here, really. One, he is telling the truth and he just needs time to get some things straightened out. Two, he's just not that into you. Either way, the only thing you can really do is get on with your life and let him do what he is gonna do. Good luck girl. I know this kind of stuff sucks!
2007-02-14 15:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by K.A. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, uh, no offense I have used this same excuse to not hurt a girls feelings when I had no interest other than sexual. Remember the chase is always more fun than actually getting the girl and this may make more sense. Listen, if he is making these "excuses" do you really want him or are you excited about the guy YOU can't have? Is the persuit not intriguiging to you too? Either accept this is nothing more than a booty call in development, or move on and get a guy with no drama and whom can respect and apprecaite you for whom you are and give you the attention you deserve.
2007-02-14 15:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by njsnowrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only going to say this once, FIND SOMEONE NEW!! He's not into you that way otherwise he would drop whatever he was doing and be with you. What exactly does he not want to put you through?! He obviously has some pretty severe issues that he's dealing with, so if he doesn't want to put you through them, then you probably don't want to put yourself through them either. Find someone who can and will devote his time to you, not someone who is devoting his time to "striaghtening out" his life. Not a good sign.
2007-02-14 15:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Confused dater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON! He obviously has. You can't make someone want to be with you, and he obviously has other plans that don't include you. Don't fool yourself into believing otherwise, you will only end up hurting yourself. Find someone who wants to spend time with you, and is devoted to working on a relationship with you.
Better yet, hang out with your friends, enjoy life, and get a dog for when you want to cuddle.
2007-02-14 15:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Speedy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems hes making up some cheap excuses to dump you so ditch him and find someone who is really into you and doesn't feel nervous around you
hope i helped!
2007-02-14 16:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him try and figure things out, because he may very well be doing that and that may include not talking to you as to avoid not hurting you. if its really on ur mind, ask him wat he thinks bout the two of u and how he feels he is progressing in his transformation
2007-02-14 15:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by luv_hun_nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He chased you bagged you. as far as he could and now is moving on you should do the same be poilte when you see him. but make it known your moving on. Then do it
2007-02-14 16:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by strangelove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him - let him straighten out his life and you get on with yours
2007-02-14 15:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and be glad you didnt waste to much time on him.
2007-02-14 15:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋