I know this is gonna end up being an arguement, but what are some views on abortion?

Question

What would you tell your best friend, if they thought about aborting a life of a child? How would that affect the parents relationship in the long run?

Now add in the fact that she may have been raped and does not want the father to know about the child at all.

Answer 1

If I knew someone thinking about abortion I would sit down with them and go to www.priestsforlife.org/resources/abortionimages/index.html. This site has actual pictures of aborted babies from 4 weeks to third trimester. There are explanations of how different procedures are done and the effects on the baby. I do not believe abortion is an option. If someone believes they are mature enough to have sex then they are mature enought to give the child up for adoption to a loving family instead of choosing murder. Children are gifts from God. Children are amazing people.

Answer 2

while I hold more liberal views on many things, I still stray to the conservative side on this one (although I consider myself "compassionately" conservative because I know not everything is black and white, and it is an extremely hard decision).

I believe all life is sacred, and just because it is inconvenient doesn't mean that it is okay to do away with it. I believe that saying "it is a fetus. not a baby" is semantics because it is just different stages of development. It is a cop out/excuse/rationalization. It's not like it is a tumor until it hits the birth canal. That is just silly.

In special situations like the endangerment of the mother where both would die anyways, I don't have as big a problem with it, but to use abortion as a means of birth control, I believe is wrong.

In the case of rape, that is incredibly difficult. It is not the mother's fault in any way that she is pregnant, but it is not the child's fault either. What would I say? Over the course of a long conversation, probably something along the lines of "wow, how incredibly difficult that is. I can't even imagine how you must feel. I know you have a very hard decision and I want you to know no matter what you decide, I will be here for you and I won't judge you no matter what decision you make." If she asks me what I feel morally, I would tell her honestly that I feel it is not the best decision, but that I have never been in her shoes so I know that I am missing a piece of the puzzle. That I would hope that I would not have an abortion myself, but I couldn't honestly tell her what I would do and therefore have no right to preach at her. I would also offer to help her in any way I could.

That is just my opinion and what I would do as far as I know in the same situation. I hope everything works out. I know that is a rough situation.

Answer 3

It depends on how the child is concieved. If it is the product of an incestual relationship or rape, and the mother is uneasy about the pregnancy, abortion can be an option, a last option. He can still push thru with the pregnancy but opt for an adoption if he does not want to raise the child. There are many childless couple out there who will be willing to raise a kid as their own.
Truly, life is sacred, and as the others are saying, the child does not deserve to be punished for the sins of the parents, and everybody deserves a birthday, but the woman, the pregnant woman, who will carry the baby for 9 months, should decide if she will like to go on being pregnat. Being healthy is difficult, if she can't afford being healthy, opt for an abortion, but as I've said earlier, it should be the last option.
Say to your friend that life is sacred, but abortion is not the only way, talk her into adoption, in that way, she can help other couple hoping for a child build their own family.

Answer 4

What would you tell your best friend, if they thought about aborting a life of a child? I would tell her it is HER life and HER choice and that whatever she chooses as her friend I LOVE her and I will support her.
Besides a pregnancy is NOT a child. A pregnancy can only be a fertilized ovum, a zygote, an embryo, or a fetus...it can't be a child. A child has already been born and so far I've never heard of any "retroactive" abortions.
How would that affect the parents relationship in the long run? How a friend's abortion would affect her parent's wouldn't have any bearing on the subject or on my supporting her.

Answer 5

Truthfully, I think that the woman who is pregnant is probably the best judge of whether she can do a good job of raising a baby. The child's best chance of success is if the mother is older, has an education herself, and has financial resources to raise the child. Otherwise, and especially if the mother is young and unmarried, the child has less of a chance of being successful. However, that said, there is always the possibility of giving up the child for adoption. That would give the blessing of parenthood to an older couple who really want a child and can do a good job of raising it.

If your friend is young, unmarried and hasn't finished her education, urge her to have an abortion or to give the child up for adoption, for both their sakes.

If the father of the child isn't ready to be a father, having a baby won't help him.

People don't usually stay together for the sake of the child, so if her relationship is shaky, tell her not to count on having a child to help.

Answer 6

I am pro-choice. I feel as though it is up the the mother & the babys father (if he is around) to make their choice. I would tell her that it is her decision. That everyone has their own reasons. It is no ones place to judge, besides God. As long as you ask Him for forgiveness, He will forgive you....it says so in the Bible. No matter how bad of a thing that it is.
As long as it is something that the parents agreed on, I dont think that it would or should cause any problems in the long run. Maybe it will teach them to be more careful to use protection when they have sex so that it doesnt happen again.

Answer 7

If you're unsure what to do in this situation, ask yourself this question: What would you do if your friend was holding a gun to the head of a six-month-old infant and threatening to pull the trigger? Would you support her in her decision, or would you do everything you could to save the child and save your friend from lifelong pain and regret? If your friend is thinking of aborting a baby, she is thinking of killing an innocent child, her own son or daughter. The only difference between her unborn baby and an infant is that her baby is younger, smaller, and in even more need of protection. Regardless of the circumstances of the baby's conception, the baby is completely innocent and does not deserve to die.

Statistically speaking, most relationships end after abortion.

Please show your friend this information before she does something she will regret the rest of her life:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Answer 8

I do not believe in killing an innocent life to please yourself. If you did not want a baby, DO NOT HAVE SEX UNPROTECTED!! PERIOD!!!! It makes no sense to be able to have the choice whether a baby can live or die, who are we to say! I think that if I had a friend that was planning to do this, I would ask her why, and I would listen, but try and talk her out of it! There are only a few occasions where abortion is ok, that is if the baby is dead or dying, then there is no other choice. If the baby is healthy and you just want to get rid of it because you feel you are not ready, that is BULL!! If you are ready to have SEX you need to be ready for the consequences that could come of it! I never will agree with that it is the woman's choice, what about the baby's choices? I do not want to argue anymore, I do not like abortion, never will! IT IS MURDER, MURDER!!!!!!

Answer 9

I use to think it was okay if a woman was raped but now I know its not okay. Regardless of the tragedy a life is still born and future generations are in the making from 1 single child that could be given up for adoption not killed because the mother didn't want to deal with it.

Answer 10

I would try really hard to talk my friend into adoption - but the decision would ultimately be hers to make and I wouldn't judge her no matter what she decided to do. As far as rape - that's a lot more difficult, I personally believe I would have the baby but I understand why some women don't.