and the comment that person says to you is, "I'm laughing 'cause I've had that happen to me."
I think people like that are really insensitive and have no consideration of the one they're teasing.
I have told this person, each time, it's rude to laugh when one is serious and upset. The answer I get back is,"I'm trying to lighten the moment so you can see it isn't as big a deal as you think it is."
I still find it to be rude.
Some may think I'm whining, when in reality I deserve the same respect as I show them when they're upset. It would never occur to me to poke fun at that.
2007-02-14 15:39:12 · 12 answers · asked by Heyjay 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have learning dificulties and struggle on a daily bases. Too many people here tend to exaggerate what I'm asking, by saying I carry the world on my shoulders. I'm told to be thankful I don't have cancer, a missing limb or had a sudden death of a loved one. My question to them: How would you know if I don't have any or all of the above? I have never said anything of what my frustrations are and, yet, many of you assume what it is. "You sound very angry!" I'm not angry, per se. I'm just looking for a decent answer, that's all.
2007-02-14 16:45:59 · update #1
Yes, Spider, I drew that pic. of myself and a panda. Thanks.
2007-02-15 10:36:38 · update #2
Don't worry about them laughing at you. When someone does something that upsets you, you have to look at wehere its coming from. Whether they don't understand how it hurts you, or do understand and are just being an idiot, either way,it shouldn't mean much coming from them.
2007-02-14 15:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it basically fairly relies upon on the problem. i does no longer call once a week or so over doing it. So if he is going out each and every saturday evening, as an get mutually, then as long as he's not transferring into difficulty, performing like an finished fool, etc... he's a grown grownup and has that actual. 3-4 situations a week, transferring into difficulty, etc... it is the position i'd have complications. i grow to be not in any respect into going to activities till the most suitable 6 months or so. in the previous, I not in any respect went out. Now i bypass out ingesting once a week (no longer HAMMERED inebriated, 2-3 beverages max). The hateful suggestions-set, etc... that ought to steer on to harass. He needs to appreciate you as the different 0.5 of the relationship. starting up fights with you, etc... feels like he's basically attempting to come across a reason out. that is like a interest, that quite of basically firing an worker, cuts their hours right down to easily about no longer some thing to emphasize the worker to go away.
2016-12-04 04:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to find some insensitive people who have their own circle of friends and they'll say anything for points. I find that immature.
To your question, yes, it is rude, no matter how you look at it. After reading some of your other questions, I get the feeling you're trying to find a reaching hand to yours. Unfortunately, you're at a greater risk of getting some arrogant answers here.
You seem to be a really caring person, and people who don't get that are so wrapped up in themselves and critical of others' mean well questions.
BTW: Is that you in the drawing with a panda?
2007-02-14 18:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Spider 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're whining, but you do seem to be carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. This person may seem disrespectful to you, but some people do respond to sorrow with humor, as a coping mechanism. Not all misery deserves company, especially if he/she really does think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. We're all very good at dramatizing little things in our lives, because to us, they DO seem monumental. Try to take a step away from your situation, and look at it objectively. Is it that big of a deal? Are you dying of cancer? Will you lose a limb? Is someone you love dead? Will you be homeless tomorrow? Perspective, perspective, perspective, my dear.
Hope I could help.
2007-02-14 15:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by OneRedCent 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree, it is rude. It's like they think your problems and feelings aren't worth taking seriously. I get tired of sympathizing with other people when they're feeling frustrated, angry, or depressed, only to have them laugh like it's no big deal when I feel these things. YES, it IS a big deal to me! There are better ways of lightening a person's mood, like just LISTENING to them and saying, "Yeah, I know that feeling. But things will get better somehow."
2007-02-14 15:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Antique Silver Buttons 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do deserve respect when you are frustrated with a situation. If you feel that this person is uncaring and insensitive to you when you have repeatedly told them how you feel, why don't you stay away from that person? If this person is a spouse, you both probably need to go to counseling.
2007-02-14 15:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, when a person is going thru a time of being serious and upset over something, the person(s) should respect the fact of what that person is going thru. The "lighter" moment can come later, after the matter is resolved.
2007-02-14 15:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by SAK 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people are so cold, going to Hell would probably warm them up. Hopefully, in their next life, they'll learn how others can be hurtful towards them.
May you find caring people in this life and the next!
2007-02-15 10:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i myself don't feel it really is. for me it helps to bring down the stress level in a frustrating situation. it would probably keeps me from going nuts.
2007-02-14 15:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by keahi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to grow up and take you seriously when you clearly are.
2007-02-15 11:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Zacarrah M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋