due to some reasons they bot got departed,is it ok for other guy to marry her knowing that she has lost her virginity
2007-02-14 15:31:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its just fine. No one bothers such thing nowadays. One can lose virginity if you think its only tearing of hymen by masturbation & other sports activities too!!!!
2007-02-14 15:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you aren't in the USA...everything has gotten so far the other way.....but because I am a Christian and believe in chastity before marriage, I will try to give you a viewpoint.
Suppose you reverse the question. Is it alright for a girl to marry you, if you were in her place and lost your chastity...then what?
You see society ...no matter where...has so mixed up things....but basically she should have the same rights as you.
Most guys think virginity is important...in the girl they marry...but many fool around in the meantime. Doesn't sound like fair thinking to me. Probably a better question is ...does she believe in saving herself for a future commitment like marriage?. That would mean she would need the same commitment from you.
Obviously something went wrong with her past relationship....it would have been better for her if she had waited...but she shouldn't be blamed for what she couldn't control...and the future in her relationships is what is important.
Virginity is important. But so is commitment from both of you.
And most young people would avoid a lot of problems if they paid attention to both. Do you care about her. Then forget what you can't change....and move on...but think about your commitment to her in the process.
2007-02-14 15:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indian culture has always thaught to forget the past, act in present and look forward for the future. All you are talking about is the girls virginity. What about the guys?
Although Indian culture respects virginity and teaches to maintain it till you are married, but that doesn't mean that a person will have to bear for life for a silly mistake committed in adolosence. In this very culture 'pavitrata' is praised and 'kshama' is the duty.
You don't love a girl cos she's virgin but cos she's a perfect match for you, cos she understands you, cos she can stand by you whenever you need her the most. Her past has gone, life's still moving on. You gotta understand this fact. Get out of it. Allowing her past haunt you wouild just make life terrible for you.
2007-02-15 06:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should really be important to you is your relationship with her now and your future life. Everybody has a past, some of us try to forget our past and others learn from the mistakes we committed. Life is like that, life is a continue evolution.
Guys who still are looking for virgins to marry are not very self confident and regard a woman as their property.
Is it difficult for you to accept, that this woman was in love with somebody else before knowing you? It´s a very stupid feeling jealousy for something that happened in the past.
I would focus on what happens in the present time and in the future. Virginity has got nothing to do with love or being faithful to your partner or not.
It´s something really old fashioned and sexist.
2007-02-15 04:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually can't believe what I'm reading! Which year are we in now? Oh yes 2007.....come on buddy, wake up and smell the coffee..........
Virginity or the lack of it shouldn't be a deciding factor as to whether you marry or even date a woman.....
Are you a virgin? If you're not should that make you "damaged goods"? Come on!
2007-02-14 19:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must marry her for the love and respect you have for her.If this issue is going to be at the back of your mind always , then there is no point in you going forward in this relationship.Your trust in her for the present and the future is important not her past.
2007-02-14 15:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Priya Mahalakshmi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has moved on from that relationship then the past does not matter. if it has happened recently or still seems to be looking or thinking of that lost love then no. it's really a personal decision... if u think it is going to bother u later on then dont because u dont want to keep punishing her for somethign she has done in the past. if u think u can forget about it then it is a good idea to pursue the relationship.
good luck!
2007-02-14 16:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's ok, more difficult maybe but ok as long as you are marrying because you both love eachother and want it equally. If she's hung up on the other guy, you may need to wait and get some premarital counseling together to talk about it.
2007-02-14 15:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you marry someone because you love her, and you can't live without her, not because she is a virgin. that reasoning is so medieval years ago.
why, do a woman think twice if a man she will marry is not a virgin anymore? shouldn't it be just the same?
so, my answer is, YES, go marry her, if you truly love her, and you respect her.
2007-02-14 15:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by jocjac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok, if you really love her. Dont mind small things about virginity or whatever. The most important thing is both of you are really in love.
2007-02-14 15:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In This Present World its going to be very difficult to find a Virgin
Its not her virginity dude, its about how you feel about her.
do you want to spend rest of your life with her ? if yes go ahead be with her.
BTW how did you get to know that she has lost her virginity ? did she tell you ? if yes then she is being honest with you pls reward her rightfully.
2007-02-14 16:54:55 · answer #11 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋