This mexican guy I know, he's been drinking everyday for decades, it seems. He's drunk all day, everyday. He barely eats. He's 53 now. His eyes are yellow, and his complexion is overall decrepit-looking. I'd imagine his liver is progressively, but slooooowly failing too. He doesn't want to quit drinking, and his family (and myself) are obviously worried that he won't be around much longer. And this isn't the first time I've known a guy (who was also an older mexican fellow) to die from liver failure, from drinking too. Are alcoholics just hopeless cases? They have to want to quit, but this guy doesn't want to quit, and telling him that he's going to die seems obsolete, 'cause it's falling on deaf ears. Doesn't want to attend AA, either.
2007-02-14 15:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't think they can quit unless they think there is a problem. My uncle drank away his life, and we had to put him into a nursing home because he was basically brain dead. He was 48, and he stayed in there for 6 years, and he is finally cohearant. He still wants to drink, and we have to watch him all the time. He hit rock bottom and there is no hope of him ever living on his own. He lives with my mom now. If given the chance I think he would drink himself to death. So you could try committing him, my uncle was a veteran, so they provided help, something to look into.
2007-02-14 15:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically nothing can be done if he doesn't want it...can't be forced or coerced into sobering up. Its an illness of spirit and mind that is manifested in the body.
The alcoholics I've known either died or gave it up over a major life event which threatened them or a love one, but that was only because they still had a spirit connection to life. They weren't yet completely hopeless and realized the value of giving up the curse.
Never because someone talked them into it.
2007-02-14 15:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by S C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is going to be very difficult to help him, and maybe impossible. My opinion is that people drink to forget or ignore certain aspects of ones life. The only way I've seen people make it back from something like this is by first finding out what is possibly causing him to drink and somehow finding some hope or a greater reason not to drink. I would say that what seems impossible to us, isn't to GOD and maybe getting a church or pastor involved would be good also. My heart goes out to you and his family.
2007-02-14 15:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Victor V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism is a weakness, and it seems this man has let his weakness take over his life. He is not in control, the weakness is.
If his personality is one in which he believes he in in control, you may be able to appeal to that side of him. If he has admitted to the weakness and knows that it controls him and no longer wants to be in control, then there is nothing physically that anyone can do for him.
If he is a man whom believes in God and Jesus Christ and you can get him to read a bit of the bible about self control and who controls what, then try that even while he is drinking if he reads a bit or lets you read it to him. Do not worry about what part you are reading, God will speak to him through the words of the bible if it is time and he is open to hearing it.
2007-02-14 15:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this MAY Sound dumb ,but i was that way until i said the rosary. I HAVE NOT HAD A DRINK IN FOUR Years. I don't even have the urge. Pray an intercessory prayer to the Virgin Mary for him. It is the kind of thing She handles. For an even better chance of results keep saying the rosary devoutly for him.
2007-02-14 15:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case I'm afraid that all you can do is limit the damage, care for the family and be there for them when the end comes. Help the family with this issue because it is sometimes genetic and will run in a family. I'm sorry for you loss.
2007-02-14 15:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most newspapers have a classified ads for AA. Call the number and tell them your delimna. They can give you the best advice. You need to trust these guys because they have been through, and/or seen it all.
2007-02-14 16:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Gary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam sorry to say if he don't want help there is not much you can do.Iam going through the same thing with my sister.I tried to help her but if they don't want help there is nothing you can do..He has to want it and it is a waste of time to force him to do anything he don't want to do.If you were to make him go to AA lets say it is not going to make him quit.My sister is killing herself and i just come to realize i cant help her cause she don't want no help.And it is destroying my life also.It is hard but but they have to WANT to until then just be there for him and don't give up.You know how that saying goes.You can lead a horse to water but you CAN NOT make him drink......I hope he gets the help he needs.But until then my prayers will be with you...
2007-02-14 15:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can try to be persistent and let him no there are ppl that love him and will help him get thru this. good luck and God bless.
2007-02-14 15:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to, you can't do a thing but get out of the way and protect yourself. Sorry.
2007-02-14 15:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋