I'm talking about 15 good looking,sweet,charming,funny,thoughtful romantic and intelligent guys here.I don't know why I do this but I really need to stop or I'm going to end up alone.I just don't seem to be able to bring myself to show them any appreciation and treat them with disrespect.Like I constantly screw-up by purposely making them jealous or doing something hurtfuIl and then going back and apoloizing.'m a 19yr old girl and need this to stop before I go to far.Please help!
2007-02-14 15:13:35 · 9 answers · asked by solostwithoutyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got the same problem.
2007-02-14 15:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by AsiH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number of people you have dated is often not important. However, you should imho be carefull about who you go out with.
The characteristics that you give of your former dates shows nothing about what kind of relationships they where. And your statement signals to a bystander like me that you have a flaky and superficial personality. However, this could be a trick!
Because many people who act and even think superficial, are in fact the contrary. Not easy going and shallow, but actually desperate in search of anyone who will crave them enough. Wish to be with them enough, to stand out all the superficial crap that they will serve them - hopefully only at first. Like a mean and stupid bonding test one could say...
Answer lies in the following questions:
Are you unable to treat other people with respect in general?
Do you deep down have an insecure personality?
Or are you in fact so double-sided that you in fact doesnt want to be with anyone for real... although forming this question ;)
Have a nice day.
2007-02-14 23:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by the_02r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my idea is that; you can make a list of the qualities you want in a guy first off; then you have to stop doing that to them; if they did it to you- you would not like it and sometimes we ourselves make the good guys treat other good women baddly because of this kind of experiences so please stop doing that.
Is good not to go out on dates for a while until you understand what you want and can give yourself too to another person.
You will not end up alone; how many girls do you know have gone out on 15 dates; you are a lucky one so appreciate what you have; and be kinder to yourself; you are hurting yourself by doing all this too.
You are extremelly young so it all is fixable and possible.
good luck
2007-02-14 23:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be good to speak to a councellor about it. Our ways of dealing with others in general, but particularly potential partners, is often based on our role models, namely your parents. Maybe you got some bad messages? But you are only 19 and have some maturing to do. Try to put yourself in the other person's place before you act and it might help you learn to be more considerate and appreciative. Good Luck. :)
2007-02-14 23:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pushing them away because you are afraid of commitment. at least right now.
At 19 you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush it.
But yes common decency and respect is called for, honesty included.
Don't worry most guys your age aren't looking to get serious right now.
2007-02-14 23:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is urself and maybe u don't appreciate them and thinks that ur everything to a guy...shld learn to be more mature and stop being so childish. :)
2007-02-14 23:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you do that? are you insecure about their feelings toward you. maybe you feel the need to "check" their feelings by making them jealous. god i sound like dr. phil. srry for the whole cliche-ish psychiatric questions but maybe thats the problem.
2007-02-14 23:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by <3pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault really, it's the fact that you date wimps. When you find a real MAN, you won't even think of disrespecting him or taking him for granted. Trust me.
2007-02-14 23:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Alan K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have such a problem, why do you keep dating so much?
2007-02-14 23:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋