My 4 year old won't sleep alone.?

Question

I have a 4 year old daughter who will not sleep by herself. She sleeps in bed with me and my husband has to sleep on the couch. We even put her bed in our room so she wouldn't be alone but we thought that might get her to sleep without someone next to her. It did not work. She gets so upset until I let her sleep in my bed. I need help I don't know what to do. My husband and I are getting fed up with this. We want her in her own room with her sister. That is the other problem. Her sister is one and just goes in her crib and goes to sleep, but they share a room. I can't just put my 4 year old in there because she is the one who screams and throws a fit and then my one year old can't sleep and she starts crying. The first thing I need to do is get my daughter to just lay down by herself and go to sleep. No tv or anything. Then If that happens she can start sleeping in her room again. Please Help!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

My hubby and I had the same problem, except for the sibling. We started by laying in her room with her until she fell asleep. After about a week of that we then would lay with her for 10 min. and then leave even if she was not asleep. Each night we took one minute off. Once in a while she still fights with us so we close her door and turn off her night lite. After about 1 minute in the dark she is willing to be quite and fall asleep so we open the door and turn the light back on.
Your little one is going to scream and fight and you will not be able to sleep for at least a week, but in the long run its worth it.........Anyways who said being a parent was easy.
Once you set the ground rules you must follow through, she knows she can get her was if she pushes you buttons just right. Don't give in EVER. In a month you will have you husband and your sanity back.

Answer 2

I have a routine for my four year old. Everynight I give him warnings before bed. I tell him, It's almost bed time. In fifteen minutes you'll have to wash your hands and brush your teeth. This prepares him for what's to come. I also tell him that it's time to wind down and be quiet. After he brushed his teeth I tell him to go get a book and get ready for bed. I play soft lulluby music for him and lay beside him and read him his book. I also keep a fairly bright night light on for him. Nine times out of ten I don't finish the book because he's fallen asleep. Then I quietly leave the room. I find that playing the soothing music for him is the best, because when I leave it still plays and he finds comfort in that. Granted, when he wakes up in the middle of the night and finds the music off and mommy gone, he finds his way to my room.

Answer 3

We had this problem with our son until about a month ago. we started by playing the no monster game which is were we gave him a flashlight all his own and he showed us all the scary places in his room and then my husband did a silly dance to scare away the scaries. That didn't work so we got a 25 watt light bulb for his room and told him that when he was ready to sleep to turn off the light himself, but that he had to stay in bed unless it was to turn off the light, he started out talking to his animals because he didn't want to go to bed and would eventually fall asleep. Now we play how long can he lay and be quiet, he sleep with the light on most night because he falls asleep before he turns it off, but he's in his own bed and we have ours back, and considering my 4 yr old is almost 4ft tall and weighs 65 lbs, we are very happy to have our room back.

Answer 4

First you need to get her bed out of your room. Then you and your husband should talk to her and let her know that big girls dont sleep with their mommies or daddies or in their room.Maybe if you get her a nice size stuffed animal to sleep with that might help. And if you can put her to bed before the 1 year old and see if that helps along with the stuffed animal. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

You have to stick with it. If she knows that her whining will get her in bed with you guys then she won't stop. Let her cry it out, it will pass, it did with my daughter. It's hard to say no to a child who is crying just because she wants to be close to you, but it can cause seperation anxiety in the future if you don't fix the problem now. Good luck.

Answer 6

DEAR
THE 4 YEAR OLD IS JEALOUSY OF THE 1 YEAR OLD THAT IS THE PROBLEM IT WAS HER FOR SO LONG AND NOW SHE FILLS LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO GIVE MORE LOVE TO THE ONE YEAR OLD THEN HER. SO SHE WANTS TO SEE HOW FOR SHE CAN PUSH YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND IN THIS MATTER SHE THINKS IF DADDY SAYS YES SHE WILL GET HER WAY WHEN MOMMY SAYS NO SHE THINKS THINKS SHE IS DADDY'S LITTLE ANGEL SHE THINKS SHE CAN PLAY ONE BETWEEN THE OTHER OF YOU SHE THINKS HE WILL TAKE HER SIDE ON THIS AND THAT MOMMY HAS NO SAY IN THE MATTER WHEN DADDY IS PLAYED OUT ALL DAY FROM WORKING HARD HE IS SO TIRED HE DOES NOT WANT TO HEAR YOU TO FIGHT SO HE GIVES IN TO THE WAY YOUR LITTLE GIRL WANTS IT SHE IS NOT STUPID LIKES SHE THINKS YOU ARE AND SHE HAS HER DADDY WRAP AROUND HER LITTLE FINGER IF YOU WANT IT TO CHANGE THEN YOU ARE GOING TO TALK IT OUT WITH OUT HER AROUND AND RESET SOME GROUND RULES 2 NIGHTS AT HER GRAND MOTHERS HIS ARE YOURS DOES NOT MATTER IT NEEDS TO BE DONE ARE THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE EVER OK TAKE CARE I HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 7

good luck ya have to stick with we cheated on this she got a tv in her room so she can watch one movies and that is it. if she is not asleep when it is over it does not get replayed... she sleeps in her roommost of the night but come morning she's in our bed.... with oneof us on the edge or feet or head in ur back.... we don't fell her come in because we have two dogs we let sleepwith us and they are always moving...lol we've even found her on the floor in the dogs bed with one doga nd the other with us... or curled up at our feet one morning i kept nudging the dog and sat up to yellonly to realize it was my kid i kept pushing...lol...