I have been seeing this girl for 4 months now and through our relationship none of us ever been completely happy... However, I want to have a serious relationship, while she wants to have me around to make love with. We have never made complete love, like had sex, but we accomplished other stuffs. Of course if we can have sex if we want to. It is not problem at all, but she doesn't want to get serious with me. Today I told her I need to have a serious relationship with her and she told me she cannot offer me that... I asked her what would should suggest me to do, and this was what she said, " Either we stay as close friends or we don't see each other anymore."
Ok. I made up my mind to move on. I'm not into this bull crap with her. But the thing is that I never saw her today on Valentine's day because of snow prevention. My question is: Should I still give her the Valentine's gift? I have a rose, teddy and two boxes of chocolates. It is going to be painful.
2007-02-14 15:02:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's up to you. You got her the gift. Give it to her and do not worry about it. Good Karma for you.
Most importantly; you are a prince among men - do not forget it.
Walk away with a smile on your face, if she let's you go it's her big huge enormous loss.
The girl of your dreams may be around the corner.
Best of luck.
2007-02-14 15:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's going to be like that then she shouldn't get her present. maybe the snow was a sign that shes not worth it. If you give her the gifts she'll think you just staying close friends and that she's basically won, where as you want a serious relationship. It just depends on what you want. give it to her and tell her its over.. or give it to her and go through the same thing you've been going through for the last 4 months. your call.
2007-02-14 23:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her the gift. If you do, you're as much as saying you accept her terms. If you want a serious relationship, move on. She has made it clear she's not for you. Give the flower and chocolates to your mom and take the teddy back to the store and get a refund.
2007-02-14 23:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she made no attempt to call you or contact you, I'd say that she isn't at all bothered by you not seeing her. Further, she probably isn't at all concerned about a valentine from you. You don't have to be an *** about it... just quietly lick your wounds, return your gifts back to where you purchased them from, and get yourself something-You obviously deserve it!
Also, its best that you don't contact her anymore. ANYONE willing to give you an ultimatum using your friendship as leverage is obviously not your friend. You can't sever ties that only you held in the first place, so stop the lines of communication as well.
2007-02-14 23:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jose C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont give it to her!
she doesn't want you anyways and you want to move on, so why should you stop yourself from making the first step to moving on by giving her a valentines gift
maybe you should take the gift back to where you bought it or do a random act of kindness and give it to a friend or even a stranger on the street
2007-02-14 23:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by h-lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like what one of my close friends is going through. Yeah, both of them are really close, but the girl tells me a lot...way more that I need to know. They also haven't gone all the way, but...well yeah. I dunno, just today, they left us at lunch to go to "the library" but when we went to find them, they were gone. Anyways, the girl thinks she loves the guy, but everytime she brings it up, the guy just shrugs it off. Pretty much what you're going through, right?
Well, anyways, I say just go ahead and give her the gift. If you have already chose to move on, then nothing worse can happen.
2007-02-14 23:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by The12thMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's basically just using you for sex and she doesnt want a serious relationship when you asked for one - my advice, move on - give the chocolate and rose to your mom(and let her know that you appreciate her) and donate the bear to a charitable organization, im sure sure those gifts will be much more appreciated
2007-02-14 23:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by kmsmifla2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her your gifts. Tell her on a card or in person (should be person) that you love her and always will but you can't go on in the relation ship because you want comitment. This way, you may get her, and if you don't, you said you already decided it was ok to brake up.
2007-02-14 23:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. If you have feelings fo her, give her a present. But I am curious about the type of your emotions. Do you love her? Is it real love? Or just a 'relationship'. In my viewpoint, a Valentine present should be motivated by feelings of love.
2007-02-14 23:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by rosyrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope u shldn't give bt since u bought it might as well give it. She already made it clear that she dun want to be ur love..so move on and just be friends and stop those lovers thing...treat her strictly as friend only and nothing more. She might be using u just to pleasure herself and won't think abt how u feel.
2007-02-14 23:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋