Mother Trouble..help!?

Question

im 16. i've had my boyfriend for almost a year and 6 months. my mom wont let me ride with him.. ANYWHERE. he's had his license for almost 6 months. She told me that once i turned 16 i would be allowed to date, but this..has not been the case. She makes up excuses constinatly that.."it's your dad" "im not ready for that yet" "your brother didnt ride with people when he was your age""You might go park" (wth). IM SICK OF IT. my boyfriend is too he said he doesnt know if he wants to spend his highschool life not being able to date. Although he said this he took it back but it makes me wonder how long he'll put up with it. How Can i get my mom to trust him/us enough and to finally let go of her "little girl"?

Answer 1

Tell her this...would she rather have u making decisions now while your under her roof and her guidance...while shes still able to guide you....or wait til your 18 and make them as an adult with no experience and no more guidelines. My point is its best you make any mistakes your going to make now while youre in your parents care than doing it new as an 18 year old and not under their authority. Put it to her like that and see what she says.

Answer 2

You are only 16 years old, so it may be that your mom just thinks that it is not appropriate for you to be in the same car together with your boyfriend, which is understandable. She said that you are allowed to date, but she didn't say to be in a car with him. It is not that she doesn't trust you, she doesn't trust you both.

If your boyfriend likes you that much, then he will wait for you no matter what. But if he can't wait for you, then that will show you that he is not serious or really cares.

If you want to date him, then how about getting a chaperon to drive you both? That's the only way you might get by with this. Or, if you two want to go to a movie, have your mom drop you off and go to the nearest restaurant to have dinner together, then have her pick you up. I don't know, you should listen to your parents though. I just don't think that your mom has that trust in you or him just yet. It will take some time. Just be patient.

Besides, if what your dad says, goes, then do what he says...otherwise, wait until you are 18.

Answer 3

Maybe u should gently remind her that if it's the "S.E.X." thing she is worried about there are two things to know -

1. She really should have more faith in you and be more trusting because being so blatantly mistrusted by your own mother at such a young age could have any number of undesirable effects on your self esteem;

and

2. If you had wanted to get down and dirty with your boyfriend, it's not strictly necessary to do it "parking" as she so lamely suggests !!! There's other places where it can be done, like his bed or a motel !!! So, lets ponder on just what is the real reason you are not allowed to go out in his car with him ???? I mean to say you've been going out with him already for 18 months, so what gives ??? Speak to your Dad, try and get to the bottom of all this confusion. I think they're being totally ridiculous, talk about double talk !!! Sorry, that's the best answer I can give sweety.........



PEACE & LOVE & ALL THAT

Answer 4

Hindsight is 20/20 so i'm going to tell what i wish i did when this happened to me. Ask her what she will allow you to do. Tell her you would like more opportunities to prove to her you are responsible when she is not around. If you and your boyfriend are close, have his parents call your mom and they can discuss their concerns.
Your other option is to sneak out of the house constantly...and it seems fun for a while but it sucks! My mom held me hostage too and we don't have a relationship now because of it. Find a book on Amazon about what teenagers should be allowed to do at your age and you both should read it.

Answer 5

I understand how you feel. I think your dilemna is that you can't take the pressure of having your mother being too protiective and having a boyfriend who wants to have alone time with you. If ist worth the risk of losing your parents' trust ., then sneak behind their back and please your boyfriend. But if he loves you and is he is willing to wait then deal with your parents first.It takes a lot to earn someone's trust. Tell your mother to trust you. Then earn their trust. You can go on a date and give them contact numbers where they can get in touch with you.I know its hard but you have to understand that they love you .

Answer 6

wel let me tellyou that parents know. i mean hey they were kids and they dont' want you to have to make decisions like that so if you are not in that problem you wont' have to do it. i mean its you hav eto be honest and upright and well i am not sure you can. i mean hes something else if you can't go and hes like that also did you think maybe hes not for you either cause if he cared he wouldn't have said that and maybe would be fbest to find someone else.

Answer 7

tell your mom & dad to drive you. EVERYWHERE
it will drive them insane. Mom can you drive me to the store? Mom can you drive me to my bfs house? Dad can you drive me to the mall? Offer to do "them" favors that include driving. WHile hes at your house "mom, we'll go pick up the eggs", etc etc , They'll get sick of being your escort, and soon enough let him drive you around

Answer 8

sorry to bust your bubble sweety..but you still are her "little girl". you are 16 and why is "riding"with him such a big deal?You should respect your moms wishes,only 2more years till youre an adult anyway. and if your boyfriend cant "put up" with it ,then he doesnt really love you.

Answer 9

run,run for ur life!
get away from ur family and live with ur lovely ones.
u will success