I often get angry with my son for some simple things.though I love him so much..how should I control my anger?

Answer 1

Maybe you should stop before he get in to all these type of drug just because your giving him so much stress. Being a father is hard but losing your grip isn't an answer, just whenever you feel like your going to blow just step outside and cool off. Just remember he look up to you!

Answer 2

you can be angry, but also be positive too. So long as you can find a way to make the anger and lashing out a positive experience for both.

Also though, when he does something "simple" that gets on your nerves or whatever, just stop, take a breath, take a step back..and think..."how bad is what he just did, is it worth me losing my cool" Think about your actions first, before acting upon them..

good luck, it is frustrating, but just remember, he is your son, and your actions are teaching him (that was the whole turning it positive in the first paragraph, make sure a real lesson is being learned (by both)), so if you're going to teach him, make sure to teach him tolerance (by being tolerant yourself), BUT being stern and constructive.

Also try explaining to him (NOT in the heat of the moment), "Yes I lose my cool, this is why etc..etc.." They do listen, and they do appreciate it. The important thing is that you are at least showing him some attention (also some of those "simple annoyances" could be methods for getting your attention).

Anyway good luck w/ your scenario.

Answer 3

It's up to you as his parent to define what is simple and what is not. It's up to you whether you completely ignore negative behavior or deal with it. What ever the case, it takes some level of anger or disappointment for a parent to realize if their son is struggling with an issue. That anger and disappointment can easily be soothed within by loving a son enough to parent and sometimes that means being stern. Sterness is not child abuse...parents should NEVER let another interfere with their parenting or allow childish advice from a enabling adult peers to waste their time on guilt-ridden suggestion. Parents cannot remain consistant if they allow themselves to be derailed by manipulation or intrusion if they take their job seriously.

Answer 4

how old is your son? and what makes you angry? i mean its not healthy to control your anger.it can affect your health and you might end up with a heart attack. What you can do is avoid being angry at him. Think about his behaviour that makes you angry. Find ways to avoid this situation or you can tell your son how his behaviour upsets you . It does happen that we can't avoid being angry what we can do is to find outlets for our anger. Learn to de-stress . Get a new hobby or do yoga .

Answer 5

be patient,it is usual and normal for the child doing the things that make u (parent) angry. do not say the harsh words to him if he does something wrong.instead,u can call him and have a slow talk to him and give ur advice to him.it just a matter of phycology.
for example,u can say "son,i don't like u make that such a thing,i love u and i know u love me to.so don't do that again,honey"i'm sure ur son will listen to u and make sure u talk to him eye on eye........being angry does not give anything,and ur child will grow in a uncomfortable atmosphere.and it also can harm ur self if u are always in a bad mood.
so,try to be patient and always have a slow talk to ur lovely son.i'm sure u will success.....belief in ur self,yes u can do it.
good luck....

Answer 6

Make a conscious decision not to be angry with him, react in a different way to something he has done. For example, if you tell him to clean his room and he says no. Instead of yelling at him, ask him why not. Let him explain, and go from there. Remain calm.

Answer 7

just remember, the more you yell, the more he'll tune you out. eventually he'll not even listen to you at all, no matter what youre saying. If hes nagging or being annoying in any way.. tell him you need to go to the bathroom or you forgot to pick something up at the store to get a minute. Even saying sincerely "Can we please discuss this later, i'm not feeling well" Will get the point across better then yelling at him to get away ... good luck