What in God's name was he thinking?!?

Question

I need opinions....because quite honestly I'm confused.

My ex b/f decided to text & call me tonight. Tonight of all nights since of course it's Valentines day. Now, I'm confused because of the following reasons. We were together for ...god I don't even remember...8 years maybe. It's a little hard to keep track of cuz we were long distance for 90% of the time. Now, the last time I went and saw him he decided to call less than a month after me being back home saying he'd found someone else he had more in common with. Alright, I can handle that....ended that situation....told him to never text and call again. He had worse mood swings than any female & completely played mind games so I cut communication b/c quite honestly I wanted to move with my life without him being in my head anymore since obviously he didn't want to be in my life anymore. Now tonight he texts me saying he "misses my voice, but knows that doesn't matter at this point."

Then whats the point?! Any ideas??

Oh, and it's been slightly over two months since the relationship was ended.

Answer 1

Actually you answered the question in the details hon - the point, simply, more mind games. I was in a relationship like that for four years, also long distance. Every time I decided 'this really isn't healthy for me, I should end this and move on' things would improve, and then as soon as I was off-guard again things would go back to what they were. I swear I think he got his jollies by stringing me along, keeping me on the bench basically. It wasn't easy to finally call him on all the behavior and really end it, he still pops into my thoughts and I still miss some things, but in the end it was the right choice. You know you don't want to put up with his mind-games and mood-swings anymore, so don't, block him so he can't text you anymore, if that's simply not possible for some reason see about having your number changed, it may be inconvenient for a few weeks but it's worth the headache it will help prevent. Good luck!

Answer 2

have you ever heard the saying you miss what you once had? well he does. he knows now he made a mistake. it could be his way of finding a way back to you. open the door, so to speak. you were right to handle the "break up" the way you did. a very mature thing to do. you know all about him. so what you do from here on out is up to you.