I'm confused. I want to find the right guy and blah blah blah, but when i get into a relationship i feel like im suffocating. I am a loner by nature and when i get into relationships i just feel like i cant be myself and do my own thing. On the other hand i want to be with someone. What can i do to change this?
2007-02-14 14:23:10 · 15 answers · asked by prettygirl_angel2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am exactly the same way. Don't change. At all. You need to find a guy that doesn't "need" you. It will only work with someone that "wants" to be with you. They have to be a "loner" or just as independant as you. Otherwise, it will never work. I went thru years of this same stuff. I felt like I was suffocating, my words also. Now, I am married to a great guy who doesn't need my help, has his **** together, is independant, and happy with himself. Basically, like me. It works great. We find time for eachother and it works great. If I wasn't the way I am, he wouldn't be in such love with me. That is why he fell for me in the first place....because I wanted him. I didn't need him, and I still don't. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Just don't change. You'll regret that. Be yourself. Period.
2007-02-14 14:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are just trying too hard. And do you really want to change this or do you just think that you should, like most of your friends, have a boyfriend or the right guy? What's wrong with being a loner and enjoying your own company? When you meet the right person you will want to spend as much time with him as possible and then you will not feel constricted by the relationship. Perhaps you can start by going out in a group of unattached friends so that you can just have fun. When you get tired of being in a crowd you simply say bye and be on your way. That way, you get to have fun, be with friends without feeling suffocated.
2007-02-14 14:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by valpal911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just arent finding the right type of guy for you. I bet that they guys you like look great to you and you skip on the personality because you like to look at them. i have QUIT dating cute guys for that reason. now He may not be the best looking guy in the room but he is smart, doing his own thing and can get me off like its going outa style! So just stop going for the type of guy that will always hurt you or be lame.
You are not a loner by nature.
Relax! Dont go looking for love. Youll never find it that way. Get your life to the point where you love who you are and what your doing!!! Once you do that youll see what you want outa a guy more so then now when your hungry for someone.
2007-02-14 14:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for starters, looking at your profile, you are only 17. Why do you want a bf anyway? At your age you should be out having fun with friends, getting ready to go to college? and thinking of your future. WHen the right one comes along, it will be right and you will know it, for now, just have fun and enjoy life.
Im 28, single and really loving it. Boys of your age are just that, boys,testosterone filled and pretty immature.
2007-02-14 14:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding someone who loves you and understands you so that you can have your own space, understanding a person and communication are very important in a relationship
2007-02-14 14:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Juan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating several guys and try to find a guy that's better with an open relationship. While dating several guys, there's no pressure cause you're not committing to any of them. But if you're only dating one guy at one time, there's a higher pressure to commit to him
2007-02-14 14:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by OrdiNance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking until you find that guy that doesn't suffocate you. You need your space. Thats normal.
2007-02-14 14:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try setting some boundaries up front.
Stick to them.
Wait for things to develop, then work it slowly.
Make sure you stay comfortable.
If this keeps happening, get some counseling for 'intimacy' issues.
2007-02-14 14:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find the rigth situation where you can be yourself. You will never be happy if you change who you are for a person or a situation...just remember that...
2007-02-14 14:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep looking for the right guy. make sure guys know your available and be yourself and always try to make yourself happy. good luck
2007-02-14 14:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋