I work at a retail shop for a very specialized clientelle and over the past year and a half I have come to know a certain guy very well. He has been coming into the shop for the entire time I have been working there and has never purchased a thing. The only thing he does when he comes in is hang out with me. He comes in about 2 to 3 times a week visits for sometimes up to an hour and leaves and we repeat this pattern over and over. I am very interested in him but I can't read him. He has given me his phone# and tells me to call him when a certain item he is interested in arrives and I do call and he comes to see me but never asks about the item. I would love to put myself out there and just tell him how I feel but I am affraid if I am reading him wrong it will make things weird. I really just need some objective feedback.
2007-02-14 14:22:09 · 14 answers · asked by Jenny J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it appears he has no interest in the things in the store so his int rest must be in you. Don't let fear of the unknown hold you back or in the end you will miss out. I'd be willing to bet he likes you but he is scared to approach you because he is not sure of your thoughts and feelings. You are both waiting on the other to make the first move. tell him how you feel before you let the chance slip by
2007-02-14 14:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by kristina r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is ACTING into you but I would be a little worried about the type of person he is becuase it sounds like he is a bit of a player although i don't know all the details.
If he was so shy he couldn't ask you ut (even after all of this time) he wouldn't be coming in so often just to see you - he would be purchasing things to be sure that the situation could be interpreted either way, thus the shy guy would have plausible deniability if you confronted him.
I hope everything works out but make sure this isn't some lunch-break entertainment to stroke his ego.
2007-02-14 14:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by two_red_ribbons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better put yourself out there ... the signs are so obvious
He is probably doing the same thing you are
Precious time is being wasted
I would call him and say that there is an item in the store he might be interested in and tell him that the item is you!
2007-02-14 14:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Audae216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does like you, but don't tell him how you feel because neither of you knows the other very well. Tell him your manager doesn't allow socializing during business hous and if he wants to see you, he'll have to call you when you're not working. Then give him your phone number.
2007-02-14 14:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is tread on thin ice if the situation goes wrong you still have to work there. I always discourage workplace romance, but then again it's not like he works there. If you think he really is coming to your job just to hang out with you then I say go for it.
2007-02-14 14:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by ~**TTC#2**~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and jump in and ask him if hes interested in going out or calling you and see what happens. If nothing happens then you dont have much to lose anyway from the way things are..
2007-02-14 14:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGurl2011 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he likes you. I also think that he is shy too! Maybe he's afraid to put himself out there. But someone has to take the initiative! Try to be casual, ask him if he'd like to ______________ (whatever you like to do) sometime. He'll probably say yes. Then, if and when you go out, you'll be able to tell if he's having fun. Try to be casual, don't take things too seriously and have fun!
2007-02-14 14:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ruthie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is weird... i really don't know what to tell you... You should ask him so questions that hit deep... but not too deep because that may push him away... try to feed into the subject... ask if he has a girlfriend... or something along those lines... Good luck
2007-02-14 14:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Need to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy likes you and he is trying to get you to make the move as to not let himself get hurt if you dont want him...but do you really want a guy not man enough to put himself out there?
2007-02-14 14:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he keeps coming in the store, but never buys anything. if he says he likes you then tell him, otherwise it's a bit weird. good luck.
2007-02-14 14:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋