My boyfriend is still friends with his ex's best friend & her husband. I didn't have a problem with that in the least until this past weekend. I've been around Betty & her husband many times before but never really 1 on 1. Last Saturday they came to stay with us for the evening... dinner & a few drinks. Well... Betty was friendly to me & decent while Dan was right there with us but when he wasn't she was constantly talking about his ex. I didn't appreciate what she was trying to do. She also talked down to me and treated me as though I didn't know Dan very well. Anyway, Sunday after they left I tried talking to Dan about how she made me feel. He looked at me as if I were crazy and said, "I didn't see it". I said it shouldn't matter if he saw it or not. It's like he is defending her & neglecting my feelings with his silence. I just want him to understand & hear me. I didn't ask him to not be friends with her. Just understand. Am I wrong? It's as if he's calling me a liar.
2007-02-14 14:21:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading one of the answers I think I need to make clear that I have no jealousy toward Betty wanting to "be" with Dan. She is older and seems to want to be his mommy.
2007-02-14 14:35:34 · update #1
You're not in the wrong.. if you felt that way, it's valid.. and he should listen and respect what you feel and take it into consideration. Of course he won't see it b/c she doesn't want him to...
2007-02-14 14:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a female, I completley understand where you're coming from. I also think that it is very mature of you to have been able to hang out with these two. As frustrating as this may sound, I don't think guys "get it". They typically don't pretend to be what they're not-i.e. Betty pretending to get along with you while dan was around-I would simply be the bigger person in this situation and when you have to see them, be friendly but cool towards Betty. Also, if you're all hanging out and Dan decides to go do something, jump up and go along with him. Maybe Betty is having trouble figuring you into the equation and is trying to feel you out, she might get better. This is a tricky situation, but you seem mature enough to be able to deal with & I wish you luck. Girls can be such bitches! :)
2007-02-14 22:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn’t at least consider what you said, then you don’t have his trust. No trust=No relationship. You aren’t wrong because you have acknowledged that you don’t expect him to simply not be friends with her, and you have recognized that you cannot control what he thinks or feels.
The best corse of action in my opinion is to just avoid her, or, the exact opposite, and tell her strait out that you don’t appreciate how she is acting around you. It is your house, and she should not be allowed to treat you in any way that you don’t deem acceptable.
2007-02-14 22:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Max 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just probably feeling too much jealous if she is already married to another guy then stop worrying about her... Your attention should be focus on your guy not to her... but it sounds like your jealousy is making you drawn to her all the time.. give your relationship some faith and believe in it...
2007-02-14 22:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cess B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have big problems with this well depends on how you go about it, I would de-fin-it-ly not listen to people on here they sould give you bad advice which could mess stuff up between you and our husband this sounds like you should talk to your husband and explain everything to him and he should understand just expalin everything you said to us.
2007-02-14 22:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by barnesy_mountiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... your not wrong ...
I would understand that....
2007-02-14 22:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by roy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋