My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 3 years, we live together and have already tried to start a family i know that he is faithful but for some reason he will not marry me i am confused and hurt and every time i talk about it he get angry.i dont want to start a family without knowing that some day we will marry me
2007-02-14 14:14:45 · 8 answers · asked by ashleya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
DO NOT PUT THE CART BEFORE THE HORSE.
NO MARRIAGE NO KIDS!!!
after 3 years give him an ultimatum. marriage or see ya. get someone that will really commit and not just mouth the words.
marriage is more than just a commitment. it is a legal contract between two people. if you break up you have rights that you do not have if you do not get married.
social security for instance. suppose he is hurt or killed no marriage no social security. the list is endless. in short you are not protected under the law if you are not married!!!
2007-02-14 14:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh dear... you need to move on with your life. Personally, I would not have moved in with a man without a ring and a date set. He has nothing to gain by marrying you because you already have given him everything. Time to move out and find a man who wants the same thing out of a relationship that you do. Don't think that if you have a child he will marry you. That will backfire and you will then be a single parent with lots of resentment for a man who told you that he does not want to marry you in the first place. Listen to what he is telling you by NOT marrying you. Men want what they can't get... be hard to get. They want the sizzle but not the steak !
2016-03-29 06:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through a different type of commitment issue so lets be honest - men, like women, want to pursue relationships further with people they love, respect and see themselves with down the line. Three years is a very long time and I would strongly recommend that you walk away from this relationship. The message is clear - he does not want to marry you.
If he really cared, he would take time to discuss this with rather than get angry. He is clearly avoiding telling you the truth. You should not be afraid to walk away from this and seek a better opportunity. What kind of commitment do you expect him to have to your family if he doesn't want one with you. I hope you make right choice.
2007-02-14 16:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by TEST N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth - it's because you are living together. Move out on your own and live independently, and continue to date him if you wish. And don't start having kids UNTIL you are married, not just you "knowing that SOME day" he will marry you. Get a grip...
2007-02-15 00:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you. Get out before you have kids. If he gets everything that a marriage offers and you allow it, why would he get married?
2007-02-14 14:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by CapeCodGram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical American woman. If you don't get your way, you whine and cry and think about blackmail. Try talking to the guy to find out how he really feels and work out some type of compromise. If you tell him that he has to marry you if he wants kids, then you might scare him away.
2007-02-14 14:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd advise you not to start one then. Move back home with your mom, or with a girlfriend so he will have to work at the relationship a bit. You're giving into him so he has no need to change.
2007-02-14 14:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOOOOOOOOO!
He's telling you something! Mama said "why buy the cow when the milk comes free"
2007-02-14 14:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋