My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 3 years, we live together and have already tried to start a family i know that he is faithful but for some reason he will not marry me i am confused and hurt and every time i talk about it he get angry.i dont want to start a family without knowing that some day we will marry me
2007-02-14 14:14:28 · 4 answers · asked by ashleya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd have said because he wants to keep the options open - you know, in case someone better comes along. But you said he's been faithful. Then I'd say because he is a coward.
It's like being around the unheated pool. It's all good to hang around the poolside, and may be soak your feet. But to dive into the cold water (or to "commit") it requires a leap of faith and some courage. You cannot over-analyze it. The more you think about it, the more doubts and confused you get. He does not have that courage to take that leap of faith and may be he's having doubts. He doesn't have the biological clock like you to feel the time pressure.
Tell him that you love him, you don't know if it will work but there is only one way to find out, and that is to get married and try your best to make it work. If he doesn't agree with this low key proposition, then he's wasting your youthful time.
2007-02-16 04:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by fifty2weekhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh dear... you need to move on with your life. Personally, I would not have moved in with a man without a ring and a date set. He has nothing to gain by marrying you because you already have given him everything. Time to move out and find a man who wants the same thing out of a relationship that you do. Don't think that if you have a child he will marry you. That will backfire and you will then be a single parent with lots of resentment for a man who told you that he does not want to marry you in the first place. Listen to what he is telling you by NOT marrying you. Men want what they can't get... be hard to get. They want the sizzle but not the steak !
2016-05-24 00:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do? tell him NO the next time he tries to start a family. then when he cools off tell him plainly that the condition is fixed: either marraige AND family or NONE. you gotta be firm, serious, and get the message across. if he gets angry, he is just USING you and doesn't really love you. dump him before he makes you pregnant and leaves you!!!
2007-02-14 14:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage what a wonderful way to tell a person that you love and are committed to til death do us part relationship. a rarity nowadays.
don't wait to much longer.
2007-02-14 14:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by danny v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋