There is a girl i like. And I was wondering wether I should go with her. See it's a long story but we kind of had a fight and went our own ways. I've liked her since third grade, and im in ninth now. I'be always felt like she is the one. Then Sunday my preacher was talking about how God speaks to people. Then Monday I had a dream where a person came up to me and told me that me and this girld needed another chance? Do you think it was God telling me? By the way before I fell asleep i asked God to show me who to date, so do you think He wants me to be with her?
2007-02-14 14:07:58 · 22 answers · asked by Theoretically Speaking 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
See the thing is everynight when I ask God to show me I dream it is her. The nights I don't ask that it never happens.
2007-02-14 14:24:37 · update #1
to michele. Yes she is like totally in love with God just as much as I am. Her family is of great christian faith. And she is trusting God too. She doesn't want to date right now because she doesn't want it to end before highschool ends. She said she wants our relationship to last.
2007-02-14 14:27:36 · update #2
you're in 9th grade, so your are maybe 15, i have grandchildren your age, if it is God, it will happen...but you are a bit young to be getting married and settling down, you don't even know who YOU are yet. (you won't understand this until you are atleast 40 and life has blown up in your face a few times.)...
be patient...(wrong word for a teen, i know)...allow yourself some time...alot of time, get to know who and what you really are for yourself, and come to understand how you are God's beloved child atleast to a greater degree than you presently have, let your relationships develope...LET them develope don't MAKE them develope.
2007-02-14 14:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by captsnuf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young Brother, It is hard to imagine that God would do so, but not impossible. I confess that it is hard to remember those days and put myself in your shoes. I know some people met their "true" love at a very young age. Most of us have to wait a long time.
I do not know what your fight was about, but one should never throw a friendship or interest away lightly. But, take it easy, don't rush things be a kid and take your time to grow up. You do not need those complications in your life right now. I know times have changed, but I never had a girlfriend till I was eighteen and it was an over rated experience. When College rolled around it really made things tough.
I barely dated and only truly loved two women of which I married the one. Timing is everything and going slow is what will make your relationship stand the test of time.
2007-02-14 22:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by crimthann69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nessesarily. Satan speaks to us to. Sometimes the enemy will show us what we want because it is bad for us and it makes it easy to tempt us.
Once we get past that you didn't give enough information to really say. Is she a Christian? What is her family like? How does she behave? What are her grades like? Who is she friends with? Is she as smart as you but not way smarter? Does she have good manners? Does she have good hygene? Does she dress modestly?
Some of these may seem over the top but ALL come into play when you are choosing the person you want to spend your entire life with. As she gets older you need to also look at things like is she a hard worker, does she keep her space clean, can she cook, is she responsible with money, good with children, respectful to your parents, does she like your family and do they like her, and does she treat you with respect.
This is why to me you are not ready to know if she is "the one." You can like her, you can date her if it is ok with both of your parents that this type of relationship happen at this age (for me it is a little early) and you can spend time getting to know her, but don't make decisions now that you are basing on the idea that you will be together forever. More than likely you will not. Most realtionships do not last when started at this age, there is just too much that happens in the next 8 years that you are not able to anticipate your and her reaction to.
Good Luck with this. Hope some of what I said helps you.
2007-02-14 22:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into dreams. I've known some Christians who got obsessed with interpreting their dreams as "messages from God." It's not a good road to go down. It turns into something more New Age than anything Christian very quickly.
Ask the girl out, and see what happens. And really don't worry about whether or not it's "God's will" to date her. Think about it - if it was really *God's will* for you to date her, but you got shy didn't ask her out, you would be sinning (going against God's will). You would be sinning for not asking a girl out. That's ridiculous!
God's will is for you to follow Jesus in this life and be happy with him in the next. Presumably you can do that either dating this girl or not dating her. So ask her out, and see what happens. Obviously don't have pre-marital sex with her or engage in other sins with her - but otherwise don't worry about if simply dating is "God's will" or not. God doesn't micromanage our lives like that.
2007-02-14 22:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sass B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are really hooked on this girl. The dream could have been your own thoughts. Is this girl a Christian? I doubt if God would have you date an atheist. Don't get discouraged you are only in the ninth grade, plenty of time to find the "right" one.
2007-02-14 22:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by angel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no. I think you are reaching. I really think this is just a dream. I also think you are in ninth grade, and the chances of this being "the one" are slim. Be her friend. If she wants to get together, cool. Keep it smart, keep it respectful, and protect her heart. Don't put so much pressure on it man. Take a step back. You should reconcile from the fight though for sure. Christianity's only contribution to the world that is unique from any other religion is the doctrine of grace.
2007-02-14 22:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
God speaks through His Word and any other source you had better check against His Word. All you need to know is written and laid out in principles for you in His Word. There is much wisdom in the Proverbs and lots of good teaching about relationships through out the Bible. Anything you hear or dream contrary to God Word is not from God.
2007-02-14 22:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by beek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian.... the fact that this is on your mind and weighing on you is why you probably dreamt what you did.
Do ask her out. Why? Because you've liked her for years and it feels 'right'. You're young and you've got nothing to lose.
Besides, if you don't... you might sit back when you're in your 30's and say "what if I asked her out - I wonder what might be different".
Don't leave this stone unturned.
Good luck
2007-02-14 22:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God wants you together you will be together.
Keep praying (and fast) the answer will work out.
If your a christian keep telling people about what Jesus did for them.Follow Him.
(Romans 10)
2007-02-14 22:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by robert p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a sign from heaven. And it might be the devil's work. Satan is tricky in that way, he disguises himself as an angel, etc., and pretends that he is a messenger from God. Pray about it, and then decide with God's help.
2007-02-14 22:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by ☼SoccerGirl☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋