This is the toughest situation I've ever been in!?

Question

Here's the deal...its a loooong story so I'll try to consolidate it...First of all, I am in a love triangle I guess you could say...I have a best guy friend who I care about a lot. He is in the Marines and we have a really special spark between us...we started talking about being together about a month before he took leave to come home...but the kick is, my ex boyfriend who is in the Navy came home before he did, and we got back together....so my boyfriend went back to his base, and my best friend came home...he was devestated that I got back together with my ex....but we hang out anyways and the spark is still there :) now he went back to the Marines...and I've been talking with both guys everyday...I miss both of them and care about them both...but my best friend wants me to leave my boyfriend to be with him, he said he's in love with me and I think I feel the same way...I just don't know what to do, my b/f and I have been together for 3 years and he's talking marriage...please help!

Answer 1

first, just sit down where you can think.
and think about which person matters to you the most
theyr probably about the same,, but think about the person love the most. and choose who you want to be with for the rest of your life.

and in my opinion,, from wat you told me,, i would go with your boyfriend. cuz you and your best friend have a spark. but sparks usually go away after awhile.

but just think about it. and break up with one of them fast.
or you will be considered to be cheating

Answer 2

There's obviously a reason he was your ex in the first place. I understand the situation you're in, but you'll eventually realize that it didn't work out for a reason and that isn't going to change. I believe in forgiveness and second chances, but some things just don't change. This other guy deserves a first chance before you give a second chance to anyone, especially because you have such chemistry and feelings for each other. Don't let him keep you around by waving marriage around, he just sees what's going on. You deserve better and so does your friend who's being put on the back burner. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think you're ready to marry your boyfriend if you're so conflicted about this other guy, so I think you should definitely tell him to hold off on that. But I also don't think you can really make a good decision about who you want to be with when they're both away and you can't actually be with them. I think you should tell both of them that you just want to be friends while they're on active duty, and keep talking to them, but not as often. I know that sounds hard but I really think you'll be able to make a better decision when they're actually home and you can spend every day with them. Writing letters and talking on the phone can be a good way to get to know someone, but it doesn't replace having a real face-to-face, day-in-day-out relationship with them. I realize you've probably already had that with your boyfriend, and I know you've spent time with your best friend, but you've never spent boyfriend time with him, and I think you should wait until you can do that before you make any serious decisions.

Answer 4

I'll make this really simple for you. You should leave your boyfriend. The fact that you think you're in love with this other guy says to me that you aren't ready to be married to your current boyfriend. If that's the road that your bf is on, then I suggest you get out before it's too late.
Believe me, you owe him that much. Honesty. It's better to leave him now before you two are married and have kids and a mortgage and a life together.

Answer 5

It's not quantity, it's quality that matters. Just cause you've been with your ex for 3 years, that doesn't make them as valueable as they would be with your best friend. If you know you feel the same way about your best friend, then I say you should stop making him wait and hurt like that (because I'm sure he's hurting knowing you're with the other guy) and go with him! Tell your ex that relationships fail and that was one of them. That you're not gonna make a decision that you're not completely sure about, especially if it's getting to the topic of marriage. That's a HUGE step. Think about it, pray about it, decide who you really know as a person and who you can build a relationship with. It's not all about spark and I'm sure you know that. But only you can be honest with yourself and decide who you REALLY want to be with. But to me the best friend sounds nice! lol :] Anyway, I hope the best for you :]

Answer 6

Girl Why did you break up with your exboyfriend? If that is still the problem then dump him and go for your best guy friend. There are reasons why exes are exes. If its cause he leaves you all the time. Well your guy friend also leaves. so pick the one you really want to be with and let the other one go so you both can move on.

Answer 7

Go with your gut feeling. Figure out which guy has more of the qualities that are important to you. Right now you're probably getting different needs met by each guy (I'm assuming you don't have a sexual relationship yet with your friend), which are the one's you need most? Will you lose your friend as a friend if you don't go out with him? Will you end up cheating on your boyfriend with your friend if you choose your boyfriend?

Answer 8

Girl Make up your mind! I find you lucky to have two good guys loving you. But its no good to play with people's feelings or you could end up losing one or even both of them. I suggest you ask yourself what you want.Make a list of who your ideal man is and maybe that will help you decide who you want to keep.

Answer 9

Why did you get back together with the X? I say,,see them both until you can make a decision that you can stick with.There is no hurry.You can support them both through their duties,, as a friend.

Answer 10

Follow your heart. Choose the one you love the most.